"When you say take a good dose of HRT how much are we talking, I have upped it to 75mg patch, so that will not get rid of the anxiety is that what you are saying?"
I wouldn't focus on doses at all, I would focus on taking whatever you need to take to treat symptoms and to get you reliably into the 400pmol + range. Reliably meaning - across multiple blood tests taken at different times, all showing you are consistently over that level. The maximum licensed dose is 100mcg for patches or 4 pumps of gel and you should easily be able to go up to that via your GP. If you need more, you will need to go private to a menopause clinic like Newson Health.
"So basically with my adenomyosis I was progestrone deficient, tried different progesterones and they just made me depressed, maybe utrogestan is also making me feel rubbish too"
There is only one progesterone, which is utrogestan. It is the only body identical progesterone that exists. Anything else you would have been given, would be a synthetic progestin. Which can have negative effects on mental health, increase the risk of breast cancer and poor lipid profiles, increase cholesterol, increase the risk of hair loss and loads more besides. Some women do have negative side effects to utrogestan as well, but from what you've described, your symptoms are far more those of estrogen deficiency than progesterone related.... (hot flashes, anxiety)
"So if I have not had a period for 2.5 years why would I not be post menopause? "
Because you had Zoladex which turned off your own cycles for an indeterminate amount of time.
"So you would recommend a bleed then, I thought it was take 25 days continuously and have a 3 day break not 5 days? I have been taking vaginally and am on day 22"
You can do that, that is called the 'old' continuous regime. However if you are taking enough progesterone (which you are not), it will take at least 5 days usually after you stop the progesterone for a bleed to start. If you begin taking it again before the bleed has started, you are really just opposing the bleeding and not letting it happen fully. A tiny 3 day break might have been enough for micro estrogen doses on the original poor HRT regimes as you'd just need to take the pressure off with a little bleed, but it's not going to be enough if you are taking enough estrogen or if you have your own estrogen at 1350pmol....
By the way, my hunch is that starting HRT after you have suppressed your own hormones for a while can sometimes cause some adjustment and weird wired/hyper feelings especially at night.