Hi pebbles, I use ovestin twice a day and estradiol daily. Last night I started using 2 estradiol pessaries as I have a bad flare up and I read another member does the same. It's such a low dose of estrogen that it's completely safe.
With regards to bleeding, I've just had that after sex. That's never happened before but since it was brief and immediately after, I wasn't concerned. It also seems I end up with BV after sex too.
So pleased for you to be in a new relationship but a very difficult time if you have VA. Are you also using testosterone?
I found that whilst it really helps with libido ( I know other ladies on here have mixed results) it has helped my overactive bladder quite a lot. Another tip is local anaesthetic cream before sex. Stings like crazy when you apply it but that only lasts about 10 seconds, but then oh so good!! You can buy it online if your GP won't prescribe. When I saw a gynae, she did an internal exam to see what my vaginal muscles were doing and told me I was tensing my muscles, I told her so you would you if you had that much pain! So I make a real effort not to tense up during sex and found that, combined with the local anaesthetic, made everything much easier. Sorry tmi, but hope that might help.