I suggest that you begin appropriate vaginal atrophy treatment ASAP!
Loss of oestrogen can cause muscles to become lax = aches and pains as well as the body may become dry: inside and out  

No one is stupid.  We often need to try different regimes in order to find something that suits, though HRT isn't a cure in all cases.  Do U keep a mood/food/symptom diary to chart progress?
Which consultant?  Any knowledge of menopause symptoms .......... 
I use vaseline lotion in the yellow bottle or nivea when my skin needs feeding.  VA in the form of 'estriol/ovestin' 3 times a week with KY jelly to keep the labia moist.  Let us know how you get on.  When VA symptoms niggle I swallow pain relief 3 times a day.