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[Dandelion]

I've put this post in this topic, as I am wondering whether, what I am about to type is a symptoms of menopause, the mental and emotional side of hormone imbalance.
Admins feel free to move it if you feel it is in the wrong place.
I don't trust my perception when it comes to whether or not another person has done wrong, in any way, that a person with healthy boundaries would know how to, or whether to try and correct, by telling the person in a healthy way.
I am on the autistic spectrum but I think this has an emotional balance component and emotional balance can be tricky in menopause.
Say if you think/feel someone has offended you, it might be, that you later realise they haven't, and you're glad you never said anything at the time, or there would have been conflict.
It might be, you have a go at someone without thinking and they have not done wrong, and it causes conflict.
It makes me think how my menopause can negatively affect others.
Does this make sense?
Does anyone else get it?
Thanks.

[Penguin]

Do you mean that you can be over sensitive to things that other people say / do and can potentially overreact as you don't trust your own judgement re whether your perception of what has happened is correct?
If so then yes absolutely. I feel like my menopause (or mental health at this time of life in general) can distort how I interpret things and make me prone to reacting to perceived slights.
Don't have the answer though, but I do look back and see how I have misinterpreted or distorted things.

[Minusminnie]

I think perception changes with age and experience anyway and maybe the varying emotional  changes in menopause are just part of that.

[Kathleen]

Hello Dandelion


I agree that emotional balance can be tricky in menopause.

 I am post meno and using HRT but I still have emotional ups and downs.  My meno nurse says that I need to obtain a higher level of blood Oestradiol but a therapist friend of mine believes that our
responses naturally change with age. She has noted that older women are quickly brought to tears for example.

Despite HRT, and  an AD my emotions are still on a rollercoaster so perhaps this is the new normal at this time in our lives?

I am sorry that I can't be of more help but you are certainly not alone.

Wishing you well and take care.

K.

[Dandelion]

Do you mean that you can be over sensitive to things that other people say / do and can potentially overreact as you don't trust your own judgement re whether your perception of what has happened is correct?
If so then yes absolutely. I feel like my menopause (or mental health at this time of life in general) can distort how I interpret things and make me prone to reacting to perceived slights.
Don't have the answer though, but I do look back and see how I have misinterpreted or distorted things.

Hello and thanks for your post.
It might be that I am feeling over sensitive or defensive, but, in the moment, I cannot tell, so I often keep quiet.
I could potentially overreact.
I don't always trust my own judgement or perception.
I am sorry you feel similar but kinda glad I am not alone.
I must say, it does feel great to have not said anything, if I realise later that it could have got me in social and emotional hot water with others.

[Dandelion]

I think perception changes with age and experience anyway and maybe the varying emotional  changes in menopause are just part of that.

Hello and thank you for your post.
I think perception can improve with age, I am thinking of the wise old woman archetype.
I see menopause as a drug with some negative emotional effects that can make some of us moody and irritable.
I struggle as I have issues with personal boundaries, I am lazy when it comes to standing up for myself as I am embarrassed to get in ego-battles that some people try to start, so I either submit or make a good natured joke if this happens to me, these days.

[Dandelion]

Hello Dandelion


I agree that emotional balance can be tricky in menopause.

 I am post meno and using HRT but I still have emotional ups and downs.  My meno nurse says that I need to obtain a higher level of blood Oestradiol but a therapist friend of mine believes that our
responses naturally change with age. She has noted that older women are quickly brought to tears for example.

Despite HRT, and  an AD my emotions are still on a rollercoaster so perhaps this is the new normal at this time in our lives?

I am sorry that I can't be of more help but you are certainly not alone.

Wishing you well and take care.

K.

Hello and thank you for saying I am not alone.
I have been existing and not living this last couple of years due to a resurgence in meno symptoms so I am going to get my testosterone levels checked, and if I need it I hope it helps the way it has helped other women. Dr Louise Newson herself said that she no longer has to press the snooze button dozens of times on her alarm now she is on testosterone.
I will try my best for this to not be my new normal as I don't want to be depressed, and while I respect other people's choices to have ADs it is not a route I want to go down.