Hello, and welcome to the Forum.
It is not uncommon to have microscope blood in urine during menopause, nor to have vaginal discomfort and painful sex. These are all symptoms of Genitourinary Symptoms of Menopause (GSM), also known as VA or vaginal atrophy. It is due to lack of oestrogen in the genitourinary tract, for which you need local oestrogen treatment, usually cream or vaginal insert. Has this not been suggested to you by your GP?
There are lots of posts on the forum about this, and others will soon be along to welcome you. It is treatable, and treatments need to be maintained for life.
JP x