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[Buttercup15]

I have been feeling very low on and off for weeks, with rock bottom motivation for absolutely everything.
I am on FemSeven and Tesogel. No physical symptoms apart from some palpitations, post meno and 50.

I am a bit of a self-help junkie so don’t lack the information or knowledge but cannot motivate myself to do anything. Even hobbies. I go through the motions of work and home care. The rest of my time is mostly spent scrolling the internet - which probably doesn’t help.

Could my HRT dose be too low? The Teso helped a lot with fatigue and helped temporarily with motivation but I feel down again.

 I struggle to find purpose in anything and wonder what the point of anything is. Maybe it’s an age thing?

For context, second child will leave for uni in a few months. Resolved some past issues with partner thanks to counselling but while he had always said he would go part-time to enjoy some time off before we get too old, he has actually taken on more hours and started a business while I have reduced my hours. Meaning I have plenty of time to ponder on all this.

I have always been an introvert and enjoyed my own company but am wondering if I’m feeling depressed / bored / lonely and can’t muster the motivation to get myself out if this horrible slump.

[Arya Underfoot]

Hi Buttercup, sorry to hear you're feeling down, I completely relate, I'm feeling miserable and unmotivated too, stuck home alone most of the time. I know low oestrogen could be the cause, so get that checked or just increase it based on your symptoms, blood tests aren't always that accurate. I'm slowly increasing mine and I think it's making a difference, it's just painful waiting for them to work. It might be worth looking in to other medications to get you through until your hormones are better or you no longer feel that dark cloud hanging over your head. You could try setting yourself small tasks to do, that aren't too overwhelming to help you get through the day. I find gardening very therapeutic and it doesn't require much effort (unless you got loads of weeds, like my garden). I hope you feel better soon, you're not alone.

[suzysunday]

I relate completely to how you feel,  going through the motions of the day and the months are rolling by.  Sorry that's not much help I know.  If I think about planning anything,  something to break the routine,  it becomes fraught with anxiety.  Asking the GP also triggers problems in my mind.  As Arya said, you aren't alone and I hope you find ways of coping and even to be happy.

[CLKD]

I wonder why your partner has taken on more work, is he too feeling a bit 'empty nesting'?  MayB to fill his thought patterns?  R U able to join him in his new enterprise, working alongside so that U C what it all involves?

Unless there's discussion about his change of mind I would feel resentful of his decision. 

When R U due for a medication review and who oversees the HRT?

[Buttercup15]

I relate completely to how you feel,  going through the motions of the day and the months are rolling by.  Sorry that's not much help I know.  If I think about planning anything,  something to break the routine,  it becomes fraught with anxiety.  Asking the GP also triggers problems in my mind.  As Arya said, you aren't alone and I hope you find ways of coping and even to be happy.

It is tough isn’t it? I don’t have anxiety about seeing the GP but the battle to get an appointment and get anything our of him - or whoever you see that day - puts me off. I had to beg for blood tests last time.

[Buttercup15]

I wonder why your partner has taken on more work, is he too feeling a bit 'empty nesting'?  MayB to fill his thought patterns?  R U able to join him in his new enterprise, working alongside so that U C what it all involves?

Unless there's discussion about his change of mind I would feel resentful of his decision. 

When R U due for a medication review and who oversees the HRT?

Yes he does have more time now his child has flown the nest (we both have children from previous relationships). Also he is a total home buddy and not as excited about travelling as I am. He says he needs the extra money but I know for a fact that is not strictly true, I think he just justifies it to himself this way.

His business venture, I can help with some admin but probably not able to tag along as such when jobs come in. His business partner is female, with a failing marriage so that plays on my mind too (I trust him but not her lol). She tells him all about her problems. Business is early days so lots to do and put in place. I’m hoping things will settle but for now wonder how we went from us spending more time together to him being out for longer days and spending hours talking business with her. None of this has anything to do with meno of course but it doesn’t help.

I don’t know when I am due for a review. Surgery keeps renewing it. Shall I ask for one? I just see the GP and it’s not always the same one so zero consistency or continuity in care. I think I may do private blood tests and maybe go back armed with those.

[CLKD]

Hi!  I would be suggesting that he brings this woman home to discuss her problems, either privately or around a cuppa with the 3 of you, to 'help' her.  However much you trust a person, there's always that 'risk' at the back of the mind.  Especially as he thinks that he 'needs the money'.  Is she a person that you both know?

U can also source support for her, handing it over and at the same time, putting it to your partner that she needs to move onto a professional and keep her private life out of business.  Hence the above suggestion, where he can focus a couple of hours completely without work interfering. 

U could make an appt to see a Nurse Practitioner which may be a quicker option.  Make a list to take along to discuss.

[Buttercup15]

CLKD - That person is someone only hubs knows, I am yet to meet her. Someone he knows from years ago but their paths only recently crossed again due to business. She and her husband are already seeing a professional to address their issues but it’s not going well. The whole set up makes me a bit uncomfortable but if I put too much emphasis on it I’m the one who’ll look like I’m making a fuss.

I could see the nurse yes. If I got a ohonr consult with the female GP she would probably increase my patch without a blink but I think I’d rather have a blood test to assess where hormones are at first.

[CLKD]

So U make a fuss?  Or sit back and watch - difficult.  I sometimes meet with an old flame from when I was 9, but DH is always there as it's usually at family get togethers.  Both of us happily married to others 

Let us know how you get on requesting further investigations. 

[Buttercup15]

I tried to book a blood collection with the local private hosp but they say i need a referral. I may just do Medichecks online.

I’ve also made an appointment with a therapist for a session. Never suffered from MH so that’s defo a first for me to admit I have an issue and can’t deal with it myself.

I’ve not felt right on and off for 2 years, pretty much since very last period and I can feel myself sinking mentally and physically. It’s going to cost money but I’ve got to put my health and MH first.

[CLKD]

Of course you need to treat yourself.  I found that talking to a complete stranger really useful, she wasn't able to tell me 'That ocunl'd have happened in your family' !!

Most depts need a GP referral because patients aren't always honest about previous medical history.  Not deliberately but simply they forget or think that past symptoms may not be relevant.

It mayB that HRT would help or taking VitD daily won't do any harm.  Thyroid function blood tests too.  Put 'medicheck' into the search, several have gone that way with good results.