Gut issues can cause tiredness . How R your VitD levels? MayB add a capsule to your daily routine, it won't do any harm at this time of year. Get advice from a pharmacist, as I believe that it's better to take a dedicated rather than multi-vit.
I doubt from how you describe your bowels that you have IBS. This can present in constipation, or a difficulty in passing stools with comfort, or 'the runs'. All or some of the symptoms which can become 'normal' for the sufferer. Or awkward and restricting in terms of work commitments, socialising etc.. If I'm going away from the house and feel that I 'need to go', will my bowel empty - will it heck

Do U have background or continual stomach, gut, bowel pain? Loose or firm but never the same? Anything out of the ordinary with bowels should be reported and checked at an appropriate clinic. I've had slow transit for years, diagnosed by a gynaecologist of all people

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Testosterone shouldn't be considered until other methods have stabilised. Otherwise how will you know what might/not be working? An appt at a dedicated menopause clinic, taking a list of concerns with you, might be a consideration.
Is the depression cyclical? I would sob in the night leading up to a bleed, even if a period wasn't due. Sob, sob - next morning, a bleed . Also my bowel would alter in the week B4 a period, sometimes constipated with bloating; as I aged 10 mins B4 a bleed I would have to 'run, even if a period wasn't due! Hormones

Nowt wrong with chocolate! Black is supposedly better, me, I have a stick of 'twirl' as pudding ;-). Eaten with a meal rather than as a snack chocolate and other hidden fats are absorbed differently if the stomach isn't empty. Apparently

. I read it somewhere recently but being menopausal, can't remember where: the article probably lays around here somewhere.