I infer from this that your libido has not yet returned though you have not mentioned whether it has or not (not that I could see)?
OK so what other HRT are you taking? Tablet, patch gel or spray? Also are you taking progesterone and if so what type and what regime - cyclical or continuous etc? Are you taking any other meds eg anti-depressants that could affect libido? All of these things may have a bearing on how effective the T will be on your libido.
Is vaginal atrophy under control ie is intimacy sore and uncomfortable? What aspects of libido are absent - everything ie desire and response, or just one of them?
Hi Hurdity,
Thanks for stopping by, your input is always appreciated.
HRT wise I’ve been using Evorel patches and cyclical Utrogestan (200mg orally) for the last 18 months. I was prescribed vaginal oestrogen in May, mainly for bladder issues and occasional vulval issues, both of which are much improved.
I’m not on antidepressants or any other meds known to affect libido. I’ve checked against the meds I do take and can’t find any documented connection with libido/effects on hormones.
Re my libido - I have no desire whatsoever, no sexual thoughts, it’s as if the sexual part of my brain is completely offline. All the things that used to have an effect on me now do nothing. When OH and I still tried in the past, response was also not great, and ‘O’ was a lot harder to achieve and not as strong. No relationship problems, very much in love with OH, we’re very close and open, no communication issues, rarely argue. He’s been completely patient and supportive over this.
It would be incomplete of me not to add that my libido problems started a number of years before perimenopause but it would show up from time to time, enough for OH and I to manage intimacy on an irregular basis (much less than either of us would have liked). My libido completely disappeared at the onset of peri (age 38, I’m now 41) and we haven’t had sexual contact in all that time. I used to have a very high libido/good response before all these problems so this is all very upsetting for me, I don’t even feel like me anymore.
I had a diagnosis of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome when I was 30 and I realise this could be a major player in my libido problems. My testosterone has been low since I was 33 (possibly younger but no data available between 27 - 33) (<0.4 nmol/L age 33, a drop from 1.5nmol/L age 27). I have often wondered if there is a link between the low T for my age (at the time) and my fatigue/low libido.
I saw a psychosexual therapist for a couple of years when I was in my early/mid thirties. She concluded there were no psychological, emotional or relationship issues affecting my libido.
Re improvements - there was something a few weeks ago - some subtle effects that occurred over the space of a week, which is a huge improvement compared to the last few years! Unfortunately it didn’t last but I’m staying hopeful it could happen again!