Hi Kai
Thanks for clarifying and no need to apologise - was just trying to work out what was going on.
The NICE Guidelines state that blood tests are unnecessary to determine peri-menopausal status if you are over 45 and experiencing cyclical changes and menopausal symptoms, but between 40 and 45 which you were at the time - is a bit of a grey area. However the fact that your natural periods were 8 months apart and you were experiencing symptoms means that you were likely to be late peri-menopausal (and therefore could be menopausal by now) though the younger one is, the more likely it is that sometimes periods do resume as the ovaries kick back into action - hence the recommendation to wait 2 years after natural menopause before stopping contraception if you are under 50 but only 1 year if over 50.
In terms of your situation - first - you say the pill helped with flushes and other symptoms, but what additional peri symptoms were you experiencing that led you to see a gynaecologist - and I presume you were referred by your GP? (Apart from VA - which can be treated by local oestrogen in addition to systemic HRT (or the combined pill in your case).
Putting you on the POP in addition to HRT as I said would be giving you a lot of extra progestogen and as far as I understand it Desogestrel suppresses the cycle and inhibits oestrogen production (though not sure how it reacts with HRT) hence the need for replacement - but you needed it for contraception.
Although you may well be menopausal because of what your cycle was doing 2 years ago - because I think you are still only in your 40's, this cannot be assumed, as I saids above. I would have thought you would still need some form of contraception. What did the menopause specialist say about this? Was this person a specialist doctor or nurse? On NHS?
So if you are to use contraception, then the alternatives are the pills that I suggested, or you could have the Mirena coil which releases most of the progestogen directly to the uterus - and this can be used both for contraception and the progestogen part of HRT. Then you would be able to add oestrogen at whatever dose you need to control symptoms, as well as local oestrogen for VA.
Obviously you have been given other advice by your menopause specialist and it's up to you whether you follow it or not, or whether to get a second opinion, but I would be a bit worried about not using contraception ( depending on your age now?). Also to reemphasise, the docs should not be using the standard blood tests (FSH etc) to determine your menopausal status (in terms of whether or not to use contraception) because these are inaccurate, though there is the AMH test here but dont' think it is widely used:
Recently, measurement of Anti Mullerian Hormone (AMH) is being recommended in women who are commencing fertility treatment. AMH is produced from the egg cells in the ovaries and the more egg cells that are remaining, the higher the level will be. This can be helpful in assessing the likelihood of success of fertility treatment, and in helping choose the dose of drug to be used to stimulate the ovaries. It is not routinely used to diagnose menopause, when the level will be very low, but can be helpful if the diagnosis is unclear.
https://www.menopausematters.co.uk/diagnose.phpAs Dotty (I think) said - if you were happy on your current regime of mini pill and oestrogel and utrogestan generally, you can increase the oestrogel and also increase the local oestrogen eg use Blissell in addition to Vagifem.
Re Mary G suggestion - the mini pill on its own is not licensed for HRT although off licence some docs prescribe double dose.
Hope this helps and all the best
Hurdity x