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[Onyx]

Hi this is my first time posting but I have a silly question. I'm going through perimenopause and I was just wondering if anyone else feels like me. I've been in a new relationship for 7 months with a man that I completley adore and am crazy about. But I find when it's close to the time of my period I start doubting my feelings. All the other times it's just like a normal new relationship where you get all silly thinking about them and you get that feeling in your heart like your gonna burst...but when it gets to period time it don't feel the same. Maybe I'm just crazy I dunno. But I do know i love him with all my heart...I'm moving to America to be with him after all...its just this week or 10 days before the period I hate...

[Flossieteacake]

Hello Onyx and welcome to the forum.

I think the way you are feeling seems to be peri related. I have been with my partner for 13 years but I keep having nightmares about him leaving me. Peri seems to really mess with our emotions and your anxiety sounds hormonal as it is coinciding with the week before your period.

Congratulations on finding somebody special. 

[SarahT]

Hi Onyx,

After several talks with my gp about my pms ramping up in it's severity, she says peri can very much intensify these symptoms. Mine has been horrendous pms and pmdd moods, and always in the run up to my period. could be that hormones are indeed messing with your thoughts too? I always feel a bit clingy and vulnerable at this time too.

What a wonderful life change for you and your partner, wish you well

[Onyx]

Thank you both. I feel a little less crazy now

[Bandango42]

Hi

I have been in a relationship for 4 years with my high school sweetheart who I truly believe is my soul mate.

Many, many times during peri I have doubted my relationship with him for the week before a bleed. I have in fact ended it several times during these times. Luckily, he is very understanding and knows when I'm due on so gives me a few days then calls to say 'so, we ok now?!'. You are not alone feeling like this, peri definitely plays havoc with our emotions, so much more than before x

[SarahT]

Perimenopause just keeps.on giving doesn't it? May add Crazy as my middle name...

[CLKD]

As hormones fluctuate they can cause emotions to flood with the 'what ifs'.  Years ago I had a dress that I could only wear occasionally: never related it to periods, although I had to be really confident to even consider putting it on.

Well done on the new relationship, I can remember those emotions: waiting for the phone to ring, for a head to pop round the door unexpectedly 

[Onyx]

Thanks everyone I feel much better now. It was getting me down that I kept feeling like this but now I know its "normal". Thanks for replying and helping me relax.

[CLKD]

That's good.  HORMONES   

Browse round, join in.  We have threads on everything - even menopause ;-)

[laszla]

If you're not ready for HRT I would highly recommend agnus castus for PMS

[Clovie]

Looking back, as I keep a diary, pretty much every bad decision,(nothing bad bad!)  irrational thought, row with my hubby or any of my young adult kids all still at home, was and still is just before my period.

I always had PMT yeah, but these days in some senses it seems worse. It's like I have no or very little filter, or tolerance 

Hormones are your (VERY) likely bet I'd say.
We are slaves to our hormones all through our lives, it's the gift that hasn't stopped giving for me at least, as I'm now 59 and still having periods :O

Feel happy at having found someone special - and what an adventure moving to America!! 
I LOVE America, have travelled to lots of states and we go to Florida at least once every year.

Enjoy your new adventure and don't let those pesky hormones spoil it. I know it's hard but just keep telling yourself it's not 'you' and that those feelings will pass

[Emma74]

Perfectly normal. I felt like that about my ex every month for 20 years. 

My partner knows when I'm due on and is very accommodating. Can you have that honest conversation and just tell him its not you its your hormones? After all, you can't help it!

[Onyx]

I'm incredibly lucky because I have a man that does understand and fully supports me. I just say to him that it's getting to that time and if im snappy or generally emotional to just ignore what I say cos I don't mean it. He's really good cos he tries to take my mind off things and boy can he make me laugh which is a great thing. I really can't wait to be there with him full time forever. I didn't think such men still existed

[SarahT]

Your post just made me so happy.
I totally believe in love. Been with my man over 30 years and we still mad each other laugh every day. Long Live Love !

To and be happy Onyx x