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[violetbat]

Hello
I have been on everol 100 and utro regime for a long while now and it has been working well.
Recently though the night sweats have started to creep back and I have noticed that I often feel permanently ‘warm’ during the day- not waves of heat as such- just an overall feeling of being too warm.
I am in the process of buying a house and it has been a very stressful and drawn out process.
There have also been big issues with my 17 year old daughter being very difficult to manage. This has been going on since April.
The house sale should hopefully complete at the end of this month.
Is there a connection between stress and menopause symptoms? I feel gutted that the regime that that has worked well for years seems to be faltering.
Would love your advice and thoughts please.
Thanks   

[meno-mel]

I can't say for sure, but if that is the only other thing that has been different, then it seems sensible to wait until the stress is over before changing the hrt that worked for such a long time, just because it's so difficult to find a match to start with!

I've not managed to get rid of night sweats yet, they are perhaps fewer than 18 months ago when I first approached my GP for HRT, I still only get a 50 dose patch but I've noticed things improve if I "forget" to remove my old patch and have two on. Just a few hours for a boost rather than an increase that I'd let my body adjust to, left on too long I'll get ups and downs going from 2 then 1 which is worse.

Herbals that might help are valerian root for stress, melatonin for sleep, kratom for relaxation or black cohosh for heat regulation, if you are ok taking them of course. I've used all the above during peri alongside HRT, but not everyone's GP agrees on the safety of that and kratom can cause nausea on withdrawal if you overuse it. I'm not a qualified person btw, just interested in herbals.

[CLKD]

Morning.  Herbals are unregulated and untested.  Some people find benefits although none should be taken for more than 3 months at a time and some may interfere with prescribed or over the counter medications.

Valerian supposedly helps with sleep issues.  As does lavender sprayed on a pillow though 4 me it was too strong even though I grow it  . 

Stress can certainly impact on hormone levels.  Who is over seeing your regime Violetbat - mayB levels need hiking.

What support do you get with your teen?  A difficult age, believing that she is an adult but still needing support and boundaries which teens will kick against. 

[violetbat]

Thanks
I am hoping it is just severe stress.
I will wait until the move is over and the dust has settled and see if things improve.
As far as herbals go I have tried them in the past- not alongside HRT. Thing is that I simply forget to take them🥴.
And as far as my teen goes I have some support. She is currently back at her dad’s having had a physical fight with her 19 year old sister which resulted in a fracture to her sister’s thumb.
I just want it all to stop.
It is also coming to the end of the school year which is exhausting without anything else being thrown into the mix.
My bladder is constantly irritated as well. I have pulled my back packing up the house.
Woe is me🫣☹️

[CLKD]

My younger sister and I fight.  Physically.  I have chosen not to engage and as we live in different countries, we don't have to meet.  Old 'wounds' often not noted by parents/teachers can often resurface.  My Mum allowed my sister to 'get away with' a lot of stuff - so I learned to lay low.  Confirmed by an Aunt many years later ........ so small irritations can grow and often the mote cause may have been forgotten. 

Also, some of these irritations i.e. teasing was seen as such, but in my experience teasing is bullying if not stopped by carers/teachers.  My Mum allowed my sister to 'continue' without stepping in: something about 'sorting it out yourselves' etc..  Not that I'm suggesting that this is your experience, as it can be difficult to determine trigger points. 

When is the Big Move?  Soon?

[violetbat]

Thanks
The big move is supposed to be a week away but it has been dragging on for months because of other issues in the chain. The stress has been unbelievable.
I have no idea if the daughter who is back at her dad’s will actually come and live in the new house as her sister is refusing to be in the same house as her atm.
19 year old is off to uni in September though.

[CLKD]

Moving is the 2nd biggest stressor after divorce. 

As for your two arguing: is it as bigger problem  4 them as it might be between U and your Dad? 

Did U sleep?

[violetbat]

Moving is the 2nd biggest stressor after divorce. 

As for your two arguing: is it as bigger problem  4 them as it might be between U and your Dad? 

Did U sleep?

My whole family situation has been a nightmare for years- I do really appreciate you replying. Makes me feel less alone x

[Dierdre]

Anxiety and stress can also cause night sweats so it may not be hormonal.

[CLKD]

Keep posting.  U R not alone here.

make sure that you get support for each of you that needs it. 

[violetbat]

Thank you so much x

[AngelaH]

Hello violetbat 

When I was in my thirties I went through a lot of stress: in my early thirties I lost my Mother, in my late thirties I went through a very painful divorce and spent 2 years in the courts dealing with different issues, then selling and buying new home for myself and my school age daughter….. In my early forties I experienced my first night sweat and then I started feeling generally warm all the time. It was something very new to me. That time I could not think why it was happening to me, but understanding of the reason came later. Low level of progesterone was blamed for that. Stress does kill production of progesterone in the body and those symptoms  indicated that. Now I am in my early fifties and I am loosing estrogen, the symptoms are different, hot flashes and night sweats feeling differently from those, which I had in my forties. But this is my own experience, we all have different bodies, so it is not necessary can be relevant to you too.

Take care of yourself, do try to take everything easy, even if you feel it’s not possible for you now. One day you will find yourself settled down and a lot of positive things around you.