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[Helly1977]

I have a usually very supportive husband. He has been good through my journey on the most part. However when I get dips in memory loss and brain fog he becomes short tempered, critical and tells me how frustrating I am. I accept that I probably am all of those things and more but do I need to be told that everytime I am falling to bits? No I don’t! I’m sure this menopause journey tests everyone involved but I can’t help but feel I would be better off on my own sometimes. I love my husband dearly but the criticism is really unhelpful to my self esteem and overall coping. Can anyone suggest some strategies to help with this aspect of Mp.

[jaypo]

There is a thread on here "for husbands" to read,if he'd do that? My OH gets angry at me sometimes,when I forget he's told me something, I can hear the frustration in his voice when he says ........I TOLD YOU about that ages ago, I suppose it's frustrating for them too (poor lambs) sadly it's difficult sometimes for people to comprehend what a person is going through unless they've experienced it themselves,hence why this is such a great forum,I mean, I never really understood anxiety until it hit me,so do try and explain to him and get him to read the thread x

[SarahT]

Hi Helly,
Sometimes I think that seeing as I can't always understand what is happening to me, or how  I am feeling, how can I expect anyone else to understand?

But the criticisms and 'jokes' at peri\memo can hurt so much, especially when we are struggling. Your hurt is real and does affect   your self esteem even more.

I said to my husband today  I KNOW I am still in here somewhere, but I feel my entire self has been hijacked by my hormones. We don't choose this madness. Maybe, being nice here, your husband feels he is a bit powerless to help you,  and his frustration is a bit at himself??  This is not your fault Helly. Maybe when you feel a bit stronger you can tell him you realise how much it can be hard for you both, but that his words sometimes hurt you?

Hugs to all

[CLKD]

I agree with the above.

Give him a  then print off 'advice for husbands' from the Forum and hand over.

[Helly1977]

Thanks everyone. Kick & print out it is!

[CLKD]

Let us know how many bruises he gets ;-)