Hey Annie1210,
That sounds horrible to deal with day to day.
Are you in perimenopause or post-menopause?
Some women find that progesterone is more calming than oestrogen in perimenopause. That is because they have enough oestrogen but have lost a good deal of progesterone. If that is your situation, you could try utrogestan (progesterone) on its own for a few weeks. If it helps, good; if not, then at least you have tried. But ask your doctor, who will hopefully know about these things. If it does help, the you could slowly introduce a very low dose of oestrogen too and build up to what you need.
If post-menopause, then the problem is more likely to be low oestrogen and your body is having a bit of a reaction to suddenly getting a dose of it. Which dose did you start on? Again, might be worth starting with a very low dose (even just 12.5 mcg - half a 25mcg patch or half a pump of oestrogel).
Lastly, some of us (me included) just don't do well with patches. I would love to use patches since they don't have to be applied every day, but they caused me real anxiety (which I had never experienced before). Oestrogel didn't. I have no idea why.
Hope you find a solution and that the new job goes well. Maybe check if they have a menopause policy during your induction.