Talli, I really feel for you. Is it possible to switch to another practice? They really sound hopeless and it is so outdated not to send urine samples to a lab.
It sounds to me like you could really benefit from HRT from the symptoms you have such as brain fog. It is so unfair you are made to feel a fraud and fobbed off with mirtazapine.
It is frustrating to be told you are too young to be in peri. I remember when I was 38 and I first told a GP I think I am in peri. He burst out laughing and said I have another 13 years to go. I believed him until doing my own research and then asked to speak to another GP and just said I want to try HRT and luckily I was given it.
You can ask to be referred to an NHS menopause clinic but it will mean a long wait as it usually takes about a year to get an appointment.
VA is just so awful and it is not fair you are not given enough vagifem to use daily. Unfortunately the silly and outdated leaflet it comes with says to use it twice a week after the loading dose.
When you say everywhere you go says you are too young, this means they are uneducated. You know your body and you know what is going on.
If you find Dmannose helpful then I do not see any harm in continuing to use it. I have seen it mentioned on the forum before and some members find it really helpful.
I suspect the vaigfem was helpful at first but then stopped because using it twice a week was not enough for you. I am not sure about the urine sample results as I do not understand anything like that but hopefully somebody who does will reply soon.
Please ask as many questions as you wish. It is horrid to feel lost and alone and you will find the support you need on here.
Thank you so so much for your replies! They’ve made me feel like I’m not imagining all this!
Which I know im not but the Drs seem to think otherwise.
Maybe I should phone them and ask for a sample to be sent off??
Should it be at a specific time of day and should I wait a week because yesterday was my last AB.
Yeah it was really helping but then it seems to have started feeling bad again.
They used to send samples to the lab but they never came back with anything but then saying that my own tests never showed anything either it’s just that this time mine did which is what’s freaked me out.
I’ll look up the British menopause society!
And click on the top banner!
Unfortunately I don’t have the money to go private or pay for any consultations and a surgery change is out of the questions. You’ve got to live in their catchment area and they’re stuffed full of patients anyway here. It’s a seaside town with a LOT of people using the Dr’s and not enough drs here.
It’s a nightmare. Everything is done by text or e consult and they close the e consults at 6:30am

so you’ve got to get up super early to be able to get in for just a text app.
The receptionists just don’t give you an appointment if they don’t seem it necessary which is a pain.