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[kazy68]

Hi all,
Supposed to be going to see westlife on Saturday, honestly really looking forward to it, but I'm making myself ill wondering if I'm going to be ill on Saturday,
Can't shake the feeling  of thinking I'm not going feel right on Saturday,
Any advice on calming myself much appreciated

Karen

[Amazing grace]

Hi kazy68, I can’t really offer you any advice how to calm yourself ,but I can really relate to what you are saying this is an issue I’ve dealt with for years I look forward to doing things but worry about how i will actually feel on the day, this stems from health anxiety for me and constantly feeling unwell, I’ve learnt though to just go with the feeling and think to myself I’ve felt this way every time I’ve planned something and once I get there I’m absolutely fine and those feelings and thoughts slip away it’s really difficult but push through it and once you are there you will have an amazing time and you will be glad you didn’t let the thoughts of what if spoil you going , tell yourself you will be fine , it’s not much help but it’s what I do and it’s gets me to where I’m going and once there I feel good hopefully someone else might see your post and offer some better advice than me , good luck and have a wonderful night watching west life x

[CLKD]

Yep.  I'm like that.  Spontaneous suits me far better than having to book anything  .  I want to go to the Zoo but booking is essential which means a) I can't consider that and b) the Zoo is losing money.  Not simply due to my anxiety but if it rains, what then!

Of course you'll enjoy it once you get there and by Sunday you'll be fine   

[getting_old]

I'm the same, and what I do is look at what I can do if I do get ill. Obviously it depends what you mean by ill, but for me that means ensuring I'll have access to toilets so whilst the wiat for the Ladies may be long at intervals I'd know there would be access should I start to feel ill during the show. Do you have an aisle, or close to aisle, seat, that allows for a quick exit. If you're worried about feeling faint can you take water or buy it there? Also do you have "safe" food that you know whon't make you feel queasy? Do you know where you can eat before the show, etc. So basically it's all about thinking about how I can solve the problems should they arise, and planning ahead.
and as CLKD says on Sunday you'll have had a wonderful time and be wondering why you were so worried.

[littleminnie]

I would do everything getting_old has said (great advice) and if you are actually ill on the day (you won’t be) then you don’t go. It’s not the end of the world. 🙂

[CLKD]

It's the guilt factor though 

If I felt ill B4 school (most mornings) I would get from Mum "You can't go out tonight if you don't go to school".  So I pushed through, often feeling so ill.  = not learning a lot as I had shut down 

Prior to an evening out for example, I would fret all day in case I was ill (never did) and "Spoiled it all for others".  "If you say 'yes' to someone you can't back out as it will spoil it". 

In the 1990s we had tickets to see "The Hollies" but I felt too ill.  We went to the Theatre to see the tickets outside.  This happened a few times and DH never turned a hair or berated me for 'wasting money'. The guilt remained though 

Now I don't make advance bookings .......... but I do get out and about sponaneously.  Friends are musicians but it's late 1990s since we went to any concerts