Yep totally related to hormones and who ever told you that you are not a candidate for HRT needs to put their head into a loo and flush the chain! At the every least your GP should have referred you to a dedicated menopause clinic for proper advice. Glad you found us!

Sorry, rant over. Welcome to the Wonderful World of Drs who don't know about how many ways of delivering HRT there are. I think many of us, including GPs, think that menopause is the end of periods and a few hot flushes! Wrong

As oestrogen levels drop the body may become dry: inside and out; skin, scalp, deep in the ears (me, we call it Spaniel ear

), nostrils, eyes. Vagina - read the threads on that 1, although treatment is classed as HRT it really is necessary to ease symptoms.
As well as muscles may become lax = aches and pains. I find that 'nuforfen' helps, especially if taken 30 mins. before activity. It also eases restless leg syndrome when I forget to eat enough bananas = potassium.
Vaginal atrophy mimics repeated urine infection-type symptoms really really well. GPs often do a dip stick urine test in the surgery and decide that ABs are the treatment whereas ladies in the know find that 'ovestin' or 'vagifem' really help. It's a treatment for life .......
Mine began with urine type 'infections' but the urine sample tested negative for bugs so my GP prescribed appropriately. Job done.
DH and I use Nivea cream and I have a 'vaseline' hand cream in a. yellow bottle which works well for dry skin. U may need to review your diet as well as your make-up regime, using products more age appropriate. As well as mayB changing which shampoo you use.
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