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Unicorn

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Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« on: March 20, 2022, 09:30:02 AM »

Hi again, sorry to twitter on, but I'm scared!

I'm still so frightened I'm not ever going to feel 'normal again.

I'm on day 12 of a new HRT regime where I rub Sandrena gel in and then on day 15 I start utrogestan, 200.  Before starting, I had terrible pounding heart, hot flushes and exhausion and had suffered intermittently with low mood and anxiety (probably due to the other symptoms).

I thought I was better from the pounding heart, but it's back as soon as I woke up this morning 😒 and I feel anxious.  It has seriously affected my life as I feel bad nearly everyday.

I've been taking an AD Sertraline, 100mg for about a year now and it hasn't really helped.  Surely if it's anxiety, it would have sorted it?

I know it's only been 12 days on my HRT, and I'm inpatient, but I really want to feel like me again.

What shall I do? Is it still too early for the HRT to kick in? I read that some ladies feel better within a week, or do I change my AD?

So sorry to twitter on

 Please help xxx
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Kathleen

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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #1 on: March 20, 2022, 09:38:05 AM »

Hello Unicorn

I am so sorry that you are suffering and I have definitely been where you are now and it does get better.

Other ladies will be along to advise you but it is still early days for your HRT so there is hope.

Take care and sending hugs.

K.
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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #2 on: March 20, 2022, 09:40:20 AM »

It's far too early to tell if hrt is working, you need to give it 3 months. Flushes usually go within a couple of weeks, other things take longer. My anxiety and insomnia took 3 months.
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Unicorn

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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #3 on: March 20, 2022, 09:43:34 AM »

Thank you Kathleen 😊

I just feel so upset as I don't want to leave the house, only to work.  I felt like this on and off a few months ago, and I could cope with it, but now it seems permanent 😔.

How did you get through it Kathleen? Xx
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Unicorn

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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #4 on: March 20, 2022, 09:45:58 AM »

Thank you Sheila! This gives me hope, as the racing heart and hot face has calmed down a bit (although I'm not sure if that's the gel or where I am in my cycle).... it's hard to tell xxx
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« Reply #5 on: March 20, 2022, 09:51:44 AM »

Hello Unicorn. As somebody with mental illness I too have these bouts of depression. I just want you to know that they do pass. I think you may be putting pressure on yourself to 'feel better'. I understand the despair and the need to feel okay. What helps me is to take each day as it comes. I do not think about tomorrow and how I will feel. I try to just take the day slowly and get through it to the best of my abilities.

I would say it is very positive that you are able to go to work. When in deep depression work can become impossible. I hope that you being able to work can reassure you a bit. You not wanting to go out is okay. It is okay to need time to rest and depression is exhausting.

For some people an AD will not totally eliminate depression or anxiety. They just take the edge of it. Do you think it may help you to have some therapy? It could help to discuss your fears with a trained therapist. 
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Kathleen

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« Reply #6 on: March 20, 2022, 09:54:56 AM »

Hello again Unicorn

These were my symptoms a long time ago and as I recall I just battled through and they stopped happening. I honestly can't remember if I had started HRT at that time. I definitely had other daily problems like headaches before beginning HRT and after six months they just stopped and have never returned.

I see that you haven't taken your Utrogestan yet. Perhaps when you do your hormones will be in a better balance and you will begin to feel better.

Wishing  you well.

K.
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Unicorn

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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #7 on: March 20, 2022, 09:56:25 AM »

Thank you Flossieteacake 🥰

I don't really feel depressed as such, just anxious really... I think I'm down because I have had enough of feeling 'not myself' if that makes sense? The racing heart and flushes have been awful and I think this may have added to my anxiety, and left me not wanting to leave the house.  I know this sounds dramatic, but it's been horrific xxxx
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Unicorn

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« Reply #8 on: March 20, 2022, 09:57:32 AM »

Thank you Kathleen! Xx
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Flossieteacake

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« Reply #9 on: March 20, 2022, 09:57:52 AM »

I do not think it sounds dramatic not wanting to go out. If your heart races then it is nerve wracking for it to happen when outside.
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« Reply #10 on: March 20, 2022, 10:05:22 AM »

....... and breath.

My GP gave me Propranolol to ease the early morning anxiety surges, caused by ?? Cortisol. ??.  The waking hormone.  The need to feel well was urgent for me, I was house bound for 3 months and thought that I would never get better.  I did with a bit of Trial and Error with medications.  Now I have an emergency anti-anxiety medication 'as necessary'.  As well as Anti-depressant medication to ease depression. 
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Unicorn

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« Reply #11 on: March 20, 2022, 10:09:40 AM »

Thank you CLKD! I do have propranalol for the racing heart, but take them sparingly.  I'm worried about the side effects, especially the depression 🥴 I don't fancy that as well ... lol! Xxx
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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #12 on: March 20, 2022, 10:10:20 AM »

I took Propranolol every night to ease the surges  :-\.   It isn't likely to give you depression.  Which can of course be treated. 
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Unicorn

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« Reply #13 on: March 20, 2022, 10:12:13 AM »

Hi CLKD, thanks for your help ❤ can propranolol cause dependence? Xxx
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Re: Frightened I'm not going to get better ❤
« Reply #14 on: March 20, 2022, 10:14:38 AM »

Hi CLKD, thanks for your help ❤ can propranolol cause dependence? Xxx

No it’s a beta blocker. It’s not like a benzodiazepine x
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