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[BlueBird]

Hello All!

I'm new here and just getting to the know the site. I decided to take on the task of reading as much as I can about menopause as my GP is next to useless. I'm considering going private as this seems to be the only option in my area. Until that time though, I've been doing a lot of reading.

What scares me the most is that those of us who are younger will likely have heart disease, brain disease, osteoporosis and a whole host of life and well-being limiting diseases. I've read a number of studies that highlight these issues.

Personally, I've watched older family members suffer later in life. I've had a number of health issues that were ignored and I was left to deal with them without any medical support which has left me in a position of lower-income and lack of self-worth (a great combo deal, two for the price of one!). I feel like I've been robbed of my best years and now this!

I don't know why I'm going through the change so early, I can't help but feel like if I'd only self-advocated against Drs more, years before this all started and not given in, maybe I wouldn't be in this position. I don't want to suffer through this but I also have medical conditions that will limit or remove my choices for HRT or antidepressants. 

Are there other younger menopausal women here? I don't care if it's because of medical reasons or not. Are others terrified of what's to come? Are there scientifically founded reasons for why some women go through this sooner than others? All the women in my family started menopause in their late 50s and 60s.

I feel alone, terrified and not looking forward to the next few years given the prospects of worsening health outcomes.

Of course, I'm sure this reads like I'm being melodramatic! Maybe I am, maybe it's the hormones (lack thereof!). But, this really is how I'm feeling right now and I'd appreciate some advice, support and others perspectives.

Thanks for welcoming me into the fold, not sure I want to be here (!) but there's some really nice company! Hope y'all are doing well today.

[CLKD]

How old are you?

What are you periods doing?

Not many health conditions mean that one can't take other medications.  There are lots of ways of delivering HRT should it be required and I've never been told that I can't take ADs or anti-anxiety medication.

Some find that keeping a mood/food/symptom diary of use to chart progress.

As oestrogen levels drop the body may become dry: inside and out and muscles may become lax = aches and pains.

Browse round. 

[CLKD]

Do U have another thread currently being answered  ?

[Flossieteacake]

Hello, I can hear in your words that you are very anxious and worried about this and I am so sorry you are feeling this way. I started perimenopause at 38 and a friend I used to have started at 24. I am not sure there are any particular reasons for this. I think we are all just different. Taking calcium can help against osteoporosis. I understand you may be unable to take HRT. I know for some heart conditions a person cannot take antidepressants. I think googling can make us feel even more worried then we need to be. I prefer to use this forum and read of other people's experiences.

It is horrid that your health conditions were ignored and I can understand why that would make you concerned with what you are going through now.

[sheila99]

Have a look at daisynetwork.org. It's for women undergoing premature meno and hopefully will be able to reassure you.

[Cassie]

Not sure how old you are, I started at 38 went onto gel and utrogestan at 40 am now late50s, never looked back. Pls get onto HRT asap its safe and will help you feel a new person, you can use it until the age you would usually have gone thru meno and longer as well, some ladies stay on it indefinitely. You should be as health as any other woman, once on HRT as you are then replacing what your body should be making naturally still.