Hi how much support are you getting from your husband who of course, is not allowed, legally, to treat family members.
Is there a Nurse Practitioner at your Surgery? Anything you discuss will be confidential, however, is there a concern that your husband may access your records. Perhaps the suggestion of asking for a referral to a menopause clinic would be the way to proceed.
Why did you begin HRT - who is prescribing it? Has the regime helped at all? Some find that keeping a mood/symptom/food diary of use.
Mood swings etc. can be treated with appropriate medication, sometimes HRT simply is not enough.
Browse round. As oestrogen levels drop the body may become dry: inside and out; skin, deep in the ears, nose, scalp, vagina as well as muscles may become lax = aches and pains. We talk about everything on the Forum so do join in. Let us know how you get on.