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[Roobee]

Just need to offload - I haven’t left my house for months, awful anxiety kicks in the moment I try. Having virtual therapy not finding it helps, have HRT that has cleared up most of the other symptoms but not the one i wanted it too. Husband really pissy lately, says he’s fed up (I get that) but he has been so pissy that I now feel anxious at home, not hungry and just want to cry!
Not had a covid jab because I haven’t left the house and now the anxiety of that is awful too, feel cut off from my kids/family, there is so much covid going around here at the moment especially my grandkids schools, so they are keeping a distance ☹️
Needed to say all that just to get it out of my head before it explodes!

[Nas]

Oh dear, it sounds as though you are very anxiety ridden right now 😥

What Hrt regime are you on? Does it need tweaking? Have you considered anti anxiety medication? Hrt doesn’t always fix every symptom unfortunately.

How about little steps out of the house? Maybe to the shop? Could a friend accompany you? Set yourself small targets daily?

You may feel better once you have had the jab? A bit more protected perhaps?

I feel for you, anxiety is awful. I have it too, but I have to leave that house to work and shop etc. I’m considering an anti anxiety medication as mine isn’t going anywhere with Hrt ( my anxiety is around driving bendy roads!!)

Hope you feel better soon x

[CLKD]

I had 3 months in the 1990s when I couldn't leave the house, not even to go into our garden 

Appropriate anti-anxiety medication is a must.  A short course of 'valium' - i.e. 2 weeks - with support from your GP is probably the place to start.  It breaks the cycle.  Why is your husband 'pissy', is that your interpretation?  If he is getting annoyed at your apparent inability, why hasn't he contacted your GP on your behalf 

The World is in a state of flux with covid being reported daily as well as hot spots across the UK.  Northamptonshire is particularly badly hit.  Do your family contact you by 'phone?

[Roobee]

Nas - I have been on Evorel Conti for a year, it has not fixed the anxiety.
I have been walking my dog (short walks) but lately that makes me anxious too, so not been so much. Force myself some nights after dark.

CLKD - I have a phone call with a prescribing nurse tomorrow, GP’s seem to have disappeared round here.
My husband has made various sarcastic remarks that make it very clear, he barely talks to me unless to snap. Usually he is very supportive, so it’s a bit strange. Have tried to speak to him about it but he just walks away.
Yes I speak to my family every day 🥰

[CLKD]

There is a 'hints for husbands' topic on the forum: Print out, hand over ;-).

Let us know how you get on.  MayB have a list of what you need to discuss by the 'phone? 

At least you are walking your dog.  I managed to avoid people when I initially felt well enough to leave the house.  Don't panic: this too will pass.

[VictoryV]

Roobee, walking the dog is a huge accomplishment when we feel bad. Balancing anxiety with guilt of not walking dog is crippling. I really feel for you. Please think about tweaking your HRT as soon as possible so that you feel better.
Sending hugs.
Victoria.xx

[Ju Ju]

Have you had a diagnosis for Agoraphobia? There are several web sites that will give information and suggestions for ways to hep yourself as well as treatment, starting with the NHS one. It’s not easy I’m sure and others can be impatient as it doesn’t make sense to them. And it doesn’t make sense logically does it?

My DH is the kindest and loviest man I have ever met, but even he gets impatient when we go anywhere where there are stairs or escalators in wide open spaces eg escalators in the underground in London or in shopping centres. I go hunting for lifts or stairs that are enclosed!

   Look for help. You’re worth it! You are not being silly and there are many people out there who are or have experienced what you are going through.

Keep posting and let us know how you get on.

[Roobee]

The therapist I talk to says it’s panic disorder, but I would say Agorophobia. I don’t know that HRT was ever going to help this, I think mild anxiety was caused by meno but I think I have let it control my life now by avoiding things, not sure tweaking my HRT will help now🤷🏻‍♀️
Usually I feel very understood and supported by my hubby but his comments and mood lately have taken my anxiety to a whole new level. Normally I function ok in my comfort zone and try not to dwell on it too much.
Fear of covid, the weather, winter coming has left me feeling very isolated from the people I rely on to keep me entertained and sociable.
It’s a bag of shit! Lol

Thanks for your comments ladies, it did me good to get it off my chest!

[CLKD]

Panic disorder - call it what the 'experts' like, it amounts 2 the same things.  One told me to stand still until the feelings had gone: I could have  hard. 

[EllaAurora]

Hi Roobee,
so sorry to hear you are struggling
Have you discussed with your therapist a plan forward how to take it step by step (really baby steps at the beginning), to start going out again? You could maybe start with going out with the dog for short walks near your house, then longer walks further from home, then going to a small shop nearby during non busy hours, etc gradually expanding once you feel comfortable with the previous step? Going for a covid jab could also be part of the plan, once you feel comfortable enough with easier steps.

Good that you will speak with the nurse tomorrow. It does sound you will need also a review of your HRT and possibly medication for the anxiety too. Can you ask to be referred to a specialist?

Good luck for the phone call tomorrow and let us know how you get on! xxx

[Roobee]

Panic disorder - call it what the 'experts' like, it amounts 2 the same things.  One told me to stand still until the feelings had gone: I could have  hard.

Standing still wouldn’t be an option for me, I need to get out of there quickly!

[CLKD]

Yep.  If panic attacked whilst in town with DH I ran to the car.   He could finish the shopping at least knowing where I was!  A lot of advice given by 'experts' over the years told me that not 1 had suffering panic attacks!!

[warwick01]

Hi Roobee

I have been struggling the same for the past couple of years. Gave up my job due to anxiety panic etc. HRT alone hasn't cured this  so after a full meltdown several weeks ago have started on AB/Anxiety med called Mirtazapine. Still early day but to be honest I am willing to try anything to get my life back. I also have talking therapy CTB. But I am sure this is all connected to hormones.

Wx

[Roobee]

warwick01 I’m sorry you are going through the same, I also gave up my job due to this and there is so much time in the day to dwell. I get anxious about being anxious because it really frustrates me that life has ended up like this.
Anti depressants scare me if I’m honest, everyone says you feel worse before you get better and I can’t handle worse!
Will have a chat with this nurse tomorrow and see what she says.
Hope you start to feel better soon xx

[CLKD]

It feeds itself.