Hi lulu
Sorry that your suffering so much , you will find that most of your symptoms we are all unfortunately suffering too
Life as a women eh !!
I’ve heard black cososh is meant to be good for the flushes
I couldn’t have because of my blood ( on warfrain ) but my sister in law sweared by it .. Holland and Barrett she got from and also was in 1p sale
Im not sure if they will help you
Also I’ve heard someone mention red clover and primrose oil
Have a look in different alternatives I’m sure you may find something in there or google natural remedies but also if on any medication as your GP just so you know it don’t interfere
For aniexty have you tried rescue remedy.. it’s not the best thing ever but does calm you down a tad and that you can get from any chemist
Hope you find something that helps you.
Let us know how you get on Xx