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[Sazzle42115]

Hi Flan747
That's interesting would be really keen to hear how you get on. My MS said that we can introduce but only when we get estrogen levels statalised.
Let us know how you get on.
Funny isnt it you see Davina et al on TV etc saying they realised their symptoms were meno and then they feel marvellous after just two weeks and here we are trying everything we can get our hands on and having to give it 3 months to see if we have any improvement. Just looking back on some photos from a few year ago (we take pic on first day back at school every year) so sad as my vitality has completely gone its scary seeing how haggard and drained I look. Hoping to be fab at 50 at some point this decade 

[Flan747]

I always think the same thing! I was listening to someone famous the other day who felt better within 2 days of starting HRT, not sure what we’re doing wrong 😄 yes I will post again when I see an improvement (so that will be Monday of course !!!)

[Michelle7474]

Hope you lovely ladies are having better days .. just wanted to drop in a message and lots of hugs for you all

Peri & menopause are exhausting & takes so much from us

I’m over 5 weeks off HRT now and this past week started to move forward , making my self go out & do little things & started CBT only had one session but was interesting, so hopefully the next one is just as good .. I paid privately as waiting on NHS with back logs could take some time and aniexty was taking over my life .. in fact it took over my life
I’m not on any medication for it as I tried certain ones and couldn’t get on with the side effects
But I’m getting there slowly .. my only way is forward now .. I don’t wanna look back as I’m not going that way I keep telling myself

Yesturday my dad passed away suddenly he was only 68 heart attack and no underlying heart problems.. I thought this news would have set my aniexty levels high but it didn’t ( I hope it stays like that  )
Just sad day of tears of laughter and memories and shock …

I can’t wait to feel my self 100% as I’ve truly struggled for past months

I hope all you ladies are well and I hope our journeys get better for us real soon xx

[Mindfulmoomins]

Michelle, it sounds like you are moving in a direction that feels right for you. Well done on getting the CBT organised and for trying to go out.

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, that’s such sudden and sad news.

Take care xxxx

[Missylou]

I’ve been on HRT since April and many symptoms went quickly but I would say it’s only been in the last few weeks where my low mood has improved, so quite a bit longer than the three months they say to give it.

So sorry to hear about your dad, sending my love x

[Michelle7474]

Michelle, it sounds like you are moving in a direction that feels right for you. Well done on getting the CBT organised and for trying to go out.

I am so sorry to hear about your Dad, that’s such sudden and sad news.

Take care xxxx

Thankyou mindfulmoomins

I’m taking small steps but for me they huge and I’m taking each day as it comes .. we have to feel better at some point surely
I just hope your ok and you get to where you need to be.

Thanks for wishes Xx

[Michelle7474]

I’ve been on HRT since April and many symptoms went quickly but I would say it’s only been in the last few weeks where my low mood has improved, so quite a bit longer than the three months they say to give it.

So sorry to hear about your dad, sending my love x

Hi missy thankyou
I’m glad that your HRT as helped you and I’m glad your mood is lifting for you

I stayed on HRT almost 4 months but it made me feel worse if I’m honest but I think my body didn’t need the added hormones ( only thinking that now) ..initially when I started it got rid of symptoms  but then I gained a whole lot more and more frequently
Aniexty being the worst for me
But I’m looking forward now
I will use HRT in future when maybe my body needs it …

[Hopeful]

Michelle
So sorry to hear about your Dad sending you love

[EllaAurora]

Hope you lovely ladies are having better days .. just wanted to drop in a message and lots of hugs for you all

Peri & menopause are exhausting & takes so much from us

I’m over 5 weeks off HRT now and this past week started to move forward , making my self go out & do little things & started CBT only had one session but was interesting, so hopefully the next one is just as good .. I paid privately as waiting on NHS with back logs could take some time and aniexty was taking over my life .. in fact it took over my life
I’m not on any medication for it as I tried certain ones and couldn’t get on with the side effects
But I’m getting there slowly .. my only way is forward now .. I don’t wanna look back as I’m not going that way I keep telling myself

Yesturday my dad passed away suddenly he was only 68 heart attack and no underlying heart problems.. I thought this news would have set my aniexty levels high but it didn’t ( I hope it stays like that  )
Just sad day of tears of laughter and memories and shock …

I can’t wait to feel my self 100% as I’ve truly struggled for past months

I hope all you ladies are well and I hope our journeys get better for us real soon xx

Hi Michelle, so sorry to hear about your dad

But so glad that you are feeling better and on a positive journey forward! Seems it was the right decision for you to come off HRT -well done taking that decision! Let us know how you progress and take good care of yourself! xxx

[Michelle7474]

Thanks Hbhigg and EllaAurora

I hope it’s best move I made , still early days , but apart from my dad gaining his wings .. this week as been best aniexty wise .. it’s still there don’t get me wrong I would be literally cartwheeling if it wasn’t but not been as bad this week as how it was or as been previous months .. so maybe the HRT is slowly coming out my system or maybe I’m just getting a weeks break which I’m thankful for
But I’m taking each day as it comes & I’m not gonna beat myself up over it , so if I have bad days then I deal with them as best as I can .. good days I will enjoy best I can.
I’m hoping that the CBT helps also where I can deal with things better as think that’s been my problem .. not dealing with the physical feelings

I’m hoping for better days
Hope your both well Xx

[Nas]

Sorry to hear about the passing of your dad Michelle, it must have been awful shock for you. Sending virtual support and thoughts xxx I think taking a day at a time is the best route with this journey. I do wish you well and hope you can move forward.

Had the day of hell today. Bloody covid testing at school for the kids. Was so stressful and horrid, I did the first one wrong and had to do it again. Decide im resigning on Monday, the menopause has got me, just not fit for work at the moment I don’t think 😥

[Michelle7474]

Sorry to hear about the passing of your dad Michelle, it must have been awful shock for you. Sending virtual support and thoughts xxx I think taking a day at a time is the best route with this journey. I do wish you well and hope you can move forward.

Had the day of hell today. Bloody covid testing at school for the kids. Was so stressful and horrid, I did the first one wrong and had to do it again. Decide im resigning on Monday, the menopause has got me, just not fit for work at the moment I don’t think 😥

Thankyou Nas
It was a shock big one .. still thinking how why when .. it’s actually heartbreaking losing anyone & our family have lost a few this year .. my sister in law past in July she was 48 it’s like come on now give us a break pleaseeeeeeee
But we have to move forward as I can’t keep stepping back
And I agree one day at a time

I’m sorry to hear about your bad day & menopause as so much to answer for , I haven’t been at work since May because of all of this .. I’m hoping I get myself sorted where I can start working again

Think about it over the weekend Nas .. you might have a clearer mind come Monday .. I miss work but I know I need to get me and my body right first

Hope you have a relaxing weekend Nas i really do .. I hate all of us struggling in somthing that should be so natural to us ..

Ever you need to rant I’m always here to help if I can. Xxx

[Mindfulmoomins]

Nas, that sounds like a really stressful day. Could you have time off on sick leave? I know that’s not what any of us want but the system is there to support us and give us time to get ourselves back to balance and health. You deserve to keep your job, none of this is your fault.

I spoke to the meno clinic again today. They don’t think increasing the oestrogen would be helpful currently. We discussed me seeing a psychiatrist again. I am going to try and see one privately that they recommended as the Gp would have the ‘max out my antidepressants’ before referring me which just doesn’t feel right.

I hope I have come to terms with the fact it makes sense to see an expert in antidepressants and depression at the moment as I have tried everything I can think of and I’m still visited by moments of hopelessness, despair and sorrow that feel overwhelming. It feels so strange that I am at a point where I am going to a psychiatrist.

I don’t mind trying a different antidepressant but I don’t want to mess around with them without some expertise and guidance on how best to do that.

Exhausting day with it all.

Thank you for being there.

Michelle, I’m so sorry to hear about your heartbreak this year but I think how you are handling everything is amazing and going gently with yourself is a really good idea.

Xxx

[Sazzle42115]

Nas don't resign yet, you can take time off to get better even if you end up leaving.
As an employee for a school you will be able to have sick pay and there should be a structure in place to support you. Have you got a HR contact in your school or trust? Any ongoing condition is treated as a disabilty and as such your employment is protected. Your employer has a duty of care to support you even if you feel that the job isnt helping, would not working at all be better or going somewhere new which would be stressful. I know what you mean though I nearly didnt go back and looked at working in a supermarket. I just want to do something that doesnt involve too much brain power (complicated admin, fast paced work etc)
Its easier to get a job when you have a job so maybe have a couple of weeks of (people will probably think you have Covid) try and use the time to figure out what you really need for the next year or so. Could you do a job share? You can request flexible working.
Wishing you brighter times ahead xxxx

[Michelle7474]

Mindfulmoomins

I’m so sorry how you feel .. it’s just awful that so many of us seem stuck in a rut with hormones & these over whelming feelings .. horrendous

I haven’t tried antidepressants as I thought if it’s hormones and extra HRT that caused this then maybe after everything is settled that all will go to how it was before I messed around which in fairness wasn’t as bad as this aniexty

I’ve read a few books with in all fairness tells you how to deal with it , but when in a panick that doesn’t come first thing to combat the situation

Each day I take an extra step and all this week I’ve been out even if its the local shop .. and that for me is a very big thing because I got stuck being indoors and never wanting to leave the house because of these feelings
I’m lucky in a way that I don’t feel down or depressed ( I feel down when aniexty is at its peak , but only because I can’t handle it ) but not in a low mood kind of thing .. I can’t wait to be me again as I’m sure we all agree we are hoping it’s sooner rather than later.

I thought news of my dad would set me back but I’ve made myself today go out to local shop .. then for a drive with husband and to see our little people for 5 mins then a short walk to mother in laws .. I’m thankful to do them things as a couple weeks ago I couldn’t see me doing them things again.
But I don’t jump infront of myself as I know these things have a habit of coming back when we think we are doing great.

The private CBT therapy sent me a relaxation recording and I’ve been listening to that once a day as suggested and as strange as it sounds it does relax me .. so I’ll continue with that.

I agree about going on sick etc with work .. I jumped in and told them I couldn’t do it and this is why & how I feel and because I worked in a Kitchen , it was deffo not the ideal thing to be suffering with.. they understood but I felt bad that I had let them down.
I miss work .. I miss a lot & I can only try get myself on track

I’m sorry you feel so low and hopeless and despair … I can only send you hugs and hope they magic ones.

Awful peri / menopause.. I’m only 47 so I need to get a grip on all this now & im hoping for better days /months /years  ahead
And I wish you the same xxx