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[Three]

What more can I say… I’m just being awful to be around… Had a mad weekAnd I’ve just taken its all out on my husband.he is really struggling at the moment and I’m just being unkind and non-supportive

I don’t know how to get back from this and stop being so insanely critical

I’m also saying things I don’t mean in public like little spoonerisms like calling someone old or advice on her not to be Fat
In some kind of subversive way I seem to be meeting new people and starting basically with those words (fat/ old) tied into different sentences
This could be my mild autism That last one

[Three]

Anyone have some tips on how to be kind when you don’t feel like it

About to google this one on YouTube but any advice or help With your experience

[CLKD]

Do read 'hints for husbands' on the Forum and print off.  Hand over.

Keep a mood/food/syptom diary.  Chart progress.  Get a pillow and punch it.  Hard.

Hormones can cause mood swings. 

If your husband is struggling, you really need to sit down and talk together.  The wooden spoon method might work.

[Postmeno3]

Am interested you mention "mild autism" as what you describe fits with that in terms of being less able to filter? Hormones could be adversely affecting this further. Perhaps some contact or research with the NAS could help you enormously. Good luck!

[sheila99]

Is this recent behaviour that coincides with peri? Where are you in your meno journey and are you on hrt? It's natural, sadly, that when we don't feel well we take it out on our nearest and dearest. Good idea about the Advice for Husbands as he will be able to understand why you're behaving this way and that it isn't your fault. I was so bad tempered and took it out on my OH and DD, I'd have run for the hills if I had to live with me. Hrt was the thing that brought me back to almost normal. I don't think I'm as laid back as I was but at least I'm not a nightmare to live with.

[Susan69]

I'm switching personality frequently. luckily I live on my own so no one else has to deal with me. but can't stay focused on anything and don't want to go anywhere or see anyone.

[suzysunday]

Yes I can relate to not wanting to go anywhere or see anyone.  No patience and short tempered.  Fed up with myself.

[Nas]

Same. Irritated and can't concentrate and that's with HRT!
The 'can't be bothered feeling' seems common during this horrendous time of life.

Hopefully at some point, it will settle??

[jillydoll]

Same here. I don’t want to see anyone most days, and I’ve been on hrt for years now.
Just can’t be arsed, think I need a  up the bum.
I never used to be like this. 🤷🏼‍♀️

[groundhog]

You just described me.
Very irritable and my husband takes the brunt of it.
Fed up of myself.
But how can you tell if it’s hormonal or depression or something else ?
I had a complete hysterectomy 6 years ago, ovaries gone BUT also had massive complications so menopause completely overlooked.
The Prozac are in a box waiting but I’m just not sure,

[Nas]

Same here. I don’t want to see anyone most days, and I’ve been on hrt for years now.
Just can’t be arsed, think I need a  up the bum.
I never used to be like this. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Me too! Totally cannot be arsed these days. And, what is worse, I am not bothered that I can't be arsed!
Again, I was never like this before.