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[befuddled]

Hello kind and lovely people.

 I've just registered because i wanted to tell you this.  I've been around for a while now reading a lot of threads, and one of them said "hello lurkers"   and it made me think of all the others out there like me.  We read your posts when we need help or reassurance, but for our own various reasons we hang around quietly in the background without ever telling you how grateful we are or giving anything back.  So from me and all the other regular lurkers, i just wanted to thank you, and tell you how much we appreciate what you do, how much it helps, and how good it is to know you'll be there if/when we need to talk. 

Befuddled
xxx

[Fusseh]

Great thread.
I would describe myself as more of a lurker than a poster and would agree with everything above.

[CLKD]

You are welcome!  Take from others' experiences and use what is appropriate at the time 

[Fusseh]

You're one of the best CLKD

[CLKD]

  I try to help. 

[Taz2]

Hi befuddled. What a lovely post.

Taz x 

[Penguin99]

Welcome
Lots of lovely ladies on here, always encouraging and there with a shoulder to cry on, share funny things too!
Don't be afraid to ask anything, no matter how personal you think it might be, most of us have been there or are suffering the same

[befuddled]

Thanks  for the warm welcome,  you really are lovely people....did i mention that before?

So glad I joined you here, wish i'd done it ages ago.  I've not joined a forum before, not a naturally chatty sort of person at the best of times, but when things aren't going well i tend to hunker down and ignore the world as much as i can til it gets better.   Although, maybe that's changing now, everything else about me has lately!

[DS68]

Loved this post x

I'm a Lurker during the times I feel fed up of feeling fed up and I change to the all confident Poster when feeling great like super woman - or I have often been capable of flitting between the 2 when Mrs doubtful pops by usually when something happens to my body and I have no idea why 😃

[Hurdity]

Hi befuddled

 

I agree that is a lovely post and as for this:

.....   Although, maybe that's changing now, everything else about me has lately!

YES!!! I think many of us have changed as a result of this very weird year - as we've had more time to think and reflect - irrespective of that thing that we all have to expereince - the MENOPAUSE! Remember no-one on here knows anything about anyone else in real life so you can be exactly who you like!

I had not joined a forum until I joined this one initially 10 years ago when I needed help and I was very nervous about posting to start with, amongst all the regulars who knew each other (even though I am very chatty in real life) - but the more you post the more  familiar you become and you will soon find yourself chatting away merrily even if you don't so much in real life - and who knows it may give you more confidence to do so in real life if that's what you want!

Hurdity x

[befuddled]

"fed up with feeling fed up" - definitely with you on that one DS68, and tired of being tired.  The longer the phase lasts the more dangerous it gets for husband, something done or said that's a tiny bit less than perfect can send me into a hissy fit or a teary snotty heap on the floor. 

Hurdity - I already do feel comfortable here, that's the good thing about lurking.  A lot of your names are already familiar and that puts me at ease.  You've already answered so many of my questions, even though i haven't asked them yet - I've been reading a lot of your posts on the Estradiol/Utrogestan thread, so much good info, i'm understanding it all a lot better now and that's really helped a lot.

xxx

[Penguin99]

As said,  nobody knows you on here(personally) and I find it easier to talk for that reason. There are things in my life ( sometimes family) that I'm embarrassed to tell my friends, because their family don't behave in the same way, but I can talk about it on here. It really helps to offload sometimes.  My hubby is very understanding but sometimes you need to speak to the ladies

[befuddled]

Yes, definitely easier, no embarrassment, no reason not to be completely honest, no worry about saying the wrong thing and upsetting anyone, and not needing to explain everything, cos you probably already understand what i'm trying to say even if i can't find the right words to explain it.  I do find it easier to write things down too, sometimes when i talk to husband it comes out sounding angry and accusing,  i don't mean it that way but when i'm wound up or upset it just comes out wrong.  He's been so good, i'm trying to give him a bit of a break from all this meno stuff.  I could try talking to the dog, but i'm not sure she really wants to hear it.

xxx

[jillydoll]

I'm sure we're all in the same boat. And if any of us can help, that's what we'll do.
Thank you for such a lovely post. 

[befuddled]

Thanks jillydoll, thanks everyone.  All over the forum, every day, words like these "And if any of us can help, that's what we'll do"

And to all the other people out there who are like i was, reading but not joining because they're not the chatty type or don't like to talk about the bad stuff, or because they're nervous or embarrassed or whatever else stops them, think again.  The difference it can make.  Go on, try it, nothing to lose, so much to gain.

xxx