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[Lisa J T]

Hello,
Is it normal to be disgusted by your body? My breasts seem to have dropped, my belly is constantly swollen and I have sooooo many spots on my face... I have never suffered with spots before.
I am hoping I will get used to it and stop feeling sorry for myself
Xx

[CLKD]

You are allowed to feel sorry for yourself on here.

    did you not have spots during your teens, I did.  Blackheads 

Now I get a dark hair in the face which itches+ scratching = a large blister  : Savlon helps

Get yourself measured correctly for a 'bra if you wear one.  85% of ladies are wearing the incorrect size 

Does your belly feel hard or has your apron dropped?

[jaypo]

Hi, I think you do eventually accept it,as women,we are brainwashed into thinking we should look a certain way to be accepted,it infuriates me. I've NEVER liked my body but when I look back at old photos, I think,hey,you weren't half bad,too late now but like you,the boobs have lost muscle tone,the belly hangs,my butt will be dragging along the floor soon but, I have a very privileged life,a husband who loves me and if my body is the only thing I have to worry about then I'm grateful.
Try and embrace it my lovely,we?re all in the same boat xx

[CLKD]

When I look at 'photos from the 1950s/60s I think "Well Dad loved me enough to take plenty of snaps".  When I had surgery in a Hospital where I worked everyone asked "How can you bare to think of people looking at you?" and my reply - "They won't see a better body all year than mine!" and as I was gowned with a silly hat ........ and my Drs weren't doing that surgery anyway ;-)

[Lisa J T]

Ok I will keep feeling sorry for myself then lol
I was so lucky growing up with my skin... maybe the odd spot but not like this.
I have always had big boobs but since my hysterectomy they are just so saggy and its uncomfy not to have them.in a bra. I have always struggled with my weight and since turning 30 (6 years ago) I have struggled more but nothing like this on my belly.... it's like I'm constantly due on.
I looked in the mirror the other day and was like who the heck is that minger lol.
Hopefully it wont take me to long to get used to it.

[CLKD]

Don't look?  I rarely do.  Nor do I weight myself, don't have time 

If you feel well overall, then maybe do a 'gok' on your wardrobe?  Wear something bright so that the eye is drawn away from the overall shape, or a nice necklace or ear-rings ........ I spoke 2 a woman of a large size recently who had a different coloured pair of glasses for every day, matched with a scarf and even though she showed me how to tie it: from a distance : I still have no idea 

I wear a bright top over denim or pastel colours over bright jeans, depending on how confident I feel 

[Lisa J T]

I never weigh myself... I dont need that kind of negativity in my life lol.
Aw see I have took to wearing all black... but the bright colours may work... I just dont feel like buying new clothes yet as I know I will be a size up now.
Surely there is a way to keep the weight off through all these changes? X

[jaypo]

I took up running and now I'm addicted,it also helps with all things mental,even though you?re overweight you can still run,just start off slowly,brisk walks etc

[Lisa J T]

Yeah I tried running but I didnt really enjoy it.... I walk a lot which I enjoy.  But that's not going to keep my weight down. Maybe i should weigh myself as that might give me what i need to do something about it.
My appetite is so up and down though. One day i will stuff my face and others i will barely eat.

[jaypo]

Yeah suppose it's not to everyone's taste,it's finding something that suits,although brisk walking is a great form of exercise,it's being healthy that counts,not body shape,keep posting 

[CLKD]

Running spoils a good walk 



Could you bulk cook and store in the freezer?  That way you won't grab 'rubbish' when you are too tired to cook? 

I love black.    When I was about 11 I had a black polo neck jumper which I loved, Grandma wasn't keen but with yellow slacks I looked really good 

[Lisa J T]

If I'm honest I never eat meals unless it's a take away lol. I've always been a picker and it's done me ok until now!!!
I am going to brave the wardrobe clear out at some point... I'm prob far too old for the clothes I have any way.... must remember ivan 36 not 16 haha

[jaypo]

Take aways are ok as a treat but only once a week maybe,as for the clothes? Wear whatever makes you feel good,don't worry about what OTHER people think,anyway you?re a baby compared to us lot 
Well, I say run clkd,more ....I need a wee,have to get home quickly kinda run

[CLKD]

That's where the 'sheewee' comes in ?   2 many nettles to bob over at this time of year 

I don't cook  ....... I could if I had to.  But I married a chemist, well apparently cooking's pretty much the same ?

Perhaps add more veg to your take away meals.  We have a 'what are you cooking tonight' thread ........ if you buy pies for example, cook it and keep half for tomorrow, add veg even if it's from a tin.  Right now there's lots of fresh fruit and veg in the stores and markets are opening again.

[Foxylady]

  . I'm more of a walker myself, did try running but nearly killed me!! I second what other have said dropped boobs, swollen belly & dragging butt!! Not a good look. x