Thanks everyone, well I had to cancel my doctor's appointment again, I've had a horrendous year (2019) and such a back log of work and I just couldn't get to that appointment.
Now will probably have to wait another month, though I understand why.
Re the stress incontinence I went from having absolutely no problem at all, to quite a significant problem when coughing with the flu recently (and I could cough and sneeze to my heart's content before). It hasn't gone with the flu either, I still have to be on guard when I cough.
Hopeful based on some of your comments, I'm suffering with exhaustion at the moment or I would reply to you all individually (and that's usually how I like to do things in forums). I am hoping that once I start HRT that I will feel a bit more back to myself, the fatigue is awful as well and lack of confidence, for no reason, I just seem a bit more shaky mentally and that was never me. Oh dear, lol.