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[CLKD]

We sit in companionable silence and if there's a dog close by, DH hasn't a chance 

[jaypo]

I'm surprised how they even end up romantically linked!! They're all glued to their phones.
Hahahaha YG,my OH would say I speak rubbish most of the time,so he'd not notice 
We like people watching but yep,if there's a dog,I'm gone 

[jillydoll]

I don't talk if there's a silence between me and my OH, I normally knock his cap off and that gets us laughing, (or me laughing anyway,) and him ranting....🤣😂🤣😂

[Yorkshire Girl]

Love it 

[squeaker99]

Ladies -  on a similar theme as this subject thread.....it is just me and where I live or do you get this 'cold shoulder' type of person everywhere these days.

There are ladies in my town who I see often - supermarket/doctors/school gate etc but they
never speak, never smile, never show any recognition at all. Even if we have friends or kids at school in common.

It happened today. There is this friend of a friend who I saw twice in town, no one else around, and she just
walk past stony faced.

I know I should maybe just let them get on with it but I find it rude at best and baffling as to why people should be like that.
Have I just got ' imposter  syndrome!'

[CLKD]

Whereas locally in our stores or village shops, people are in the main, cheerful and chatty.  Sometimes too much  especially in a queue when I am in a rush to get out B4 anxiety strikes    .  I don't mind so much if it's an elderly person who might not see anyone else ...... but I really don't want to know X, Y, Z about the person/s in front 

I begin conversations  .........

As 4 being unkind, yesterday's actions in London spring to mind 

[jaypo]

I find here at the lodge,everyone is chatty,at the very least you'll get a wave as they pass in the car and I love that but I know what you mean squeaker,it doesn't  cost anything say hello or at least smile

[CLKD]

squeaker99 - have you tried to open conversation? 

[squeaker99]

I have this kind of ' 3 strikes' rule. I'll say hi or try and catch someones eye three times and then I just don't bother.

It's not like I am desperate to be best friends with these people but I just find them blanking someone they obviously
have seen around for years is weird.  My daughter says there is a word now for people who desperately want to be liked
on Facebook etc ' Beg Friends'.  The last thing I want to be is a beg friends! I just think it is civil to acknowledge people
you know by sight in a small town.

I do live in the kind of place where there are ' locals' (born and bread here, went to high school here and never left etc) and ' incomers'  (moving in for work/jobs and no family in the town). I am the latter.  I was born in the midlands and have family in Yorkshire & find it much friendlier there maybe - people always say Hello on walks when they pass each other etc.

[CLKD]

The further North 1 travels the more chatty people are ;-)

I think Supermarkets are training their till staff to engage more but it doesn't always suit me ........

When severely depressed I would walk by people I've known for years without noticing who they were, it was a blur .......... a) I didn't notice b) I didn't want to engage c) I was unable to communicate

[jaypo]

Oh my clkd,the supermarket checkout,I'm always tempted to say something naughty to them
How are you today madam? I'm fine thanks,are you off home now?yes.nothing planned for the rest of your day? Yes,I'm a stripper down the local boozer,might do a pole dance later 

[Two hoots]

I go to certain checkouts to have a chat, Tesco, Asda, M & S and T K Maxx, they all have regular staff who enjoy a catchup, I know where they go on holiday and they know what I'm up to 

[jillydoll]

I'll talk to anyone! My OH goes, oh why don't you tell em everything about us ! 🤣😂
Then on a bad day, I don't even give eye contact...which isn't very often anymore tbh..

[getting_old]

Ladies -  on a similar theme as this subject thread.....it is just me and where I live or do you get this 'cold shoulder' type of person everywhere these days.

There are ladies in my town who I see often - supermarket/doctors/school gate etc but they
never speak, never smile, never show any recognition at all. Even if we have friends or kids at school in common.

It happened today. There is this friend of a friend who I saw twice in town, no one else around, and she just
walk past stony faced.

I know I should maybe just let them get on with it but I find it rude at best and baffling as to why people should be like that.
Have I just got ' imposter  syndrome!'

She may just have a lot on her mind, and therefore didn't notice you. There are times when I'm walking around time and whilst my body may be present, my mind is thinking about something totally different, and I'm fairly sure I probably don't look happy most of that time.

[Yorkshire Girl]

Oh my god Jillydoll are you sure we're not related?! I'll sometimes talk to the ladies behind the tills and both my hubby & son think I must be mad, but there are days when I just don't want to have any interaction.
In Tesco I always go to the same lady, very time asks how my swim went, she even knew about my incident with the dog through one of my swim friends!

We have been for a meal tonight to celebrate my birthday and there were two other families all the children where on ipads/phones etc no conversation with parents, I find this very sad. Our 18yr old son came with us tonight and he is as good as gold never even looks at his phone - maybe I have done one thing right in bringing him up!