Hello relieved.
If your struggling with meno symptoms, and you've had side effects from the antidepressants, then I'd go on hrt....you have options, different ones to try, if the first doesn't suit, they're are others to try...
Hope you get an appointment soon. Let us know how you get on...
Do some research, go armed with information to your doctor, use the information from this site, and I'm hoping your doctor will sort you out properly.
Keep posting, we're all in the same boat, either peri or post meno....ask as many questions as you like, someone's always on to offer advice....good luck..xx