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[GalLelly]

Hi,I'm new to the Forum and wish for some advice/support. I am finding the menopause really difficult and think it has to be THE worst stage in a woman's life. I feel like an "old woman". I'm only 54 (not that old by today's standards!),but just feel horrid. My energy levels are zero,my libido has literally GONE,I have put on weight,the flushes/night sweats are horrendous,I have zero interest in anything,everything is too much effort,the overwhelming weepiness in public at times is quite embarrassing to say the least,so I tend to go to work and the rest of the time is spent looking after my 3 teens (2 work,1 at school),my 2 cats and my husband who is amazing round the house and does more than his share...if I'm not doing that,I'm resting as I have no energy,I definitely feel old before my time,and I know this horrid menopause is the cause. I loved walking,cycling and swimming (don't get me wrong,I'm no "Mrs Superfit",it was more for fun/enjoyment) but I have no inclination to get out,I feel I'm wasting my life away,and have become a couch potato. Hubby is,as I said great around the house,it's the libido thing he finds hard to take,I have zero interest in sex now,he says he understands,but he really enjoys the physical side,and misses the "closeness",he always compliments me,praising my curves etc,but I just roll my eyes because my confidence levels are at zero too,I know I'm not the woman he fell in love with (we met late in life at 46,so I feel he's got the "worst of me" years...I reached the point where I visited my doctor last week and confessed I need urgent help. We both agreed my "mojo" has gone and explained the risks,adding though,that they were minimal,and the potential benefits far outweigh the risks, especially the way I'm feeling,so she has put me on Kliovance. I have been on them a week,and already I notice a decrease in the flushes/sweats. I was wondering if anyone else is on these pills,and if so,did anyone get their "mojo" back? If I can even feel halfway "normal" again further down the line,it would be enough,I just can't go on feeling washed out and washed up. 

Thanks for reading.

[sheila99]

You need to try it for 3 months to get the full effect. Some women find oestrogen improves their libido but I had to add testosterone. Gp should also have tested vit d and thyroid as they can cause tiredness too. Transdermal is thought to be safer than oral hrt so you may find it useful to look at the Treatments section.

[jaypo]

👋 hi & welcome to the forum,so sorry you're feeling this way,all hormones I'm afraid, I have the flushes and night sweats and had them for years but you do get used to them and they become less as time goes on,I'm not on hrt so can't advise.
I've only been married 5 years so I was mortified when I lost my mojo but again everything tends to settle,I've had the worst panic attacks and anxiety,think that was the worst for me but I'm still here,determined to enjoy life although I do know how hard it can be.
Exercise is the best thing you can do,there's a lady on here who goes her walk every day come hell or high water, I like to run,it energises me but walking just as good.Your're NOT old,don't let the meno trick you into thinking you are,I fight it every step of the way.speak to your dr every time you're feeling rubbish or just need to talk,too many women think they're being a pain and don't go but you must.take care x

[GalLelly]

Thanks ladies for your kind replies. Re the walking/exercise....I forced myself to go out on a long 2 hour walk a week and a half ago (I work shifts,so time permitting) and enjoyed it,but unfortunately,one of my precious cats had to be put to sleep the next day,so the grief set me back,and I even had to be sent home from work. So,I'm back to square one....please don't think I am making excuses,I genuinely have no vitality in me...I really feel the menopause has made me "grieve" for my youth. It's like "you've had your youth,now you're OLD" and that's not just a state of mind,that's how my body/mind is physically and mentally making me feel. I envy those lucky women who sail through this part of life..just feel I'm wasting my precious time away. I do hope this Kliovance helps. I NEED MY MOJO BACK!!!

[AnnieR66]

Hi GalLelly,
Just wanted to say hi and you are not alone in these feelings.

I know exactly how you feel, I am tired of it as well.

I am on patches and they have wiped out the flushes/night sweats and taken the edge off the  other symptoms,
I just grit my teeth and try to get through this hell!
Some days worse than others.

Give the tablets time, sorry you feel like this Annie x

[Rosie63]

Hi GalLelly.  Yes, it sounds as though everything you are going through is hormone related.  You need to give the Kliovance time to do it's magic which, as sheila99 says, can take up to 3 months.  If you find this particular HRT doesn't work for you then please don't hesitate to go back to your GP to ask to try something different.  There are lots of HRT regimes out there so I'm sure you will find something that will improve your quality of life. Unfortunately it can be a case of trial and error and a little bit of patience which, I know from my own experience, can be easier said than done.

I hope you start to feel a bit better soon.  Let us know how you get on.

Rosie63 x