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[Penguin]

I just saw this thread from a while ago;

I have been perimenopausal from 36-39 years old. This occurred over covid. Now not had a period for a year and blood tests confirm I have premature menopause. I am 39 years old now.

Generally I am slim (especially on face and arms), but have always carried a bit more weight on belly. In the past 3 years the public I work with, 3 random people asked if I was pregnant or had recently had a baby. The irony.....I am childless and now know I can't have kids.

I was both gutted and annoyed at being asked those questions. If only those people knew what I was and am still going through.

I got offered a seat at a bus stop (along with my 80 something year old mum) once when my tummy bloated so much from ibs that I did in fact look about 7 months pregnant in my wraparound dress. I was so embarrassed I took the seat rather than explain !

[CLKD]

My Mum told me when I was depressed: U don't need to be depressed Dear : and "Don't lead your husband a dance like your father did me".  Later I realised that ........

My sister told me "I've been through all that" when I enquired how she was in her menopause. 

[PM16]

After the first person asked me if I was pregnant I replied with "its lockdown weight gain" and as soon as I said it I regretted it. I should have just said "no I am not pregnant I am just fat"

But when 2 other people asked me.....I don't know why but I couldn't say "no I am just fat" I just mumbled some lie about a change in medication (because I have a separate health condition). When it happens again I will just say no and wait in silence to their response. I hope my silence embarrasses them instead of me.

[CLKD]

Good idea.  The other query is "Who is asking exactly, R they on the need to know list"?