If one is nervous the vagina will close up, like a clam

it has a sense of self preservation

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Try not to insert too deeply initially as the vagina may object - put the ? pessary ? inside and relax. R U using nightly? It takes a while to find our way down there if we have ignored it

. It took DH to teach me, all those years ago ........
Relax. Lay back. Take your time. Vaginas arrive in all sizes and shapes

I've never compared mine not even with my sister

. It took me a while to find my way around

- usually in the bath, warm water and private .......