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[Tc]

This is a thank you
I was on such a downer this morning and my posts reflected that as they often have.
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This afternoon i I actually went to visit family , yes I went out!! and someone said "you don't look well" and I replied " it's the new medication I'm on"  and another family member  said "oh we're not gonna hear about your flaming menopause are we?". I'm normally a pretty feisty girl but that has deserted me lately so I just shut up and had to bite back tears. No one else said a word and the subject was changed.

I wouldn't mind but I hardly ever talk about it to family and friends

Only  you ladies on here know the truth about what I've realy been going through because I feel able to say it.

So after that I would've come home feeling so alone and even more down if it wasn't for the replies I received here. I have been listened to and offered advice and support  that I wouldn't have had otherwise.

Without that I would be feeling very different this evening.

 
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[CLKD]

I would be ringing that person and asking them to explain what they meant, trouble is not having an immediate retort! but if you ring out of the blue, they will be caught on the back foot ;-)

 

[jaypo]

Ha! Flaming menopause?flaming family 😆 maybe we're not quite the same as a face to face but we're all here for you anytime you need to vent any worries or just to get something off your chest.
Good for you going to visit,it's true what they say.........you can choose your friends but not your family,I DEFINITELY wouldn't choose mine 😂🤣

[Tc]

She didnt say flaming she used another f word . Funny how in order not to swear I could've changed it to flipping or something else but I chose "flaming". Meno brain at work here  🔥🔥🔥

[jaypo]

Has this family member hit menopause age yet?😏

[AgathaC]

Write her a note thanking her for her concern and tell her you'll be sure to ask her for menopause advice.
Then call her at weird times to talk about vagina dryness, etc.
Jaypo is right that you can't choose your family!!
It's crap presents for her from now on xxx

[Tc]

Shes a year younger than Me!!

[Roseneath]

Tc   How rubbish for you. I find it hard not to be hurt with thick skinned comments like that.  Or I think what I should have said an hour later!  I am finding the big 'M' seems seems to make many people either laugh or change the subject. Like talking about body hair. It's like ' Oh no - this doesn't happen to me'.   

Remember some people are like clouds. Once they are gone it's a beautiful day.  And I am sure you are a beautiful person too.

[Dancing Queen]

Been at the pub tonight talking about the big m to a couple of acquaintances..dont know them that well but good to have an open chat . The husbands looked hunted and shuffled to the other end of the table!

[Emerald2017]

When I told to a friend about my early meno 2 years ago, she said that I am overreacting and that meno is a natural process, not a disease. She said that she was tired with me cause I was complaining all the time.
I did not say a word and after 2 years she started to have meno symptoms. My answer? I told her to accept the nature and talk to her doc.

[Tc]

Oh ladies  love hearing your stories.
😁

[Ladybt28]

  oh AgathaC    you made me laugh out loud!!

Chin up Tc! - she'll get what's comin! but no doubt you will be the bigger person and say the right thing cos your a nice
person.....
or you could start practicing come sarcastic comments in a mirror - just so as your ready!! 

[CLKD]

Emerald - she's still your *friend*  .  ??  Years ago Mum told me, "You don't want to be depressed" - nope, but I was; and "Don't lead your husband a dance as your father led me".  So I never told her about any health issues.  Ever.  Not even these days unless it's obviously, like a cold.

I think women still believe it's the last period and a 'few hot flushes' without having any idea what flushing entails     How short is your C.mas card list now TC? ;-)

[jaypo]

Or even worse,you could invite us lot round to meet her mmmwwwwhahahahaha 😎

[Emerald2017]

Hi CLKD! 
Yeah she is still my friend but I don't share with her a lot...She said that my problem was psychological and not because of meno and such things! I had too severe symptoms and was feeling like a failure at 41 because of my early menopause.
And of course she was absolutely against hrt. I prefer not to continue the debate with her and when she started to have meno symptoms I just told her to ask her doc.
When she asked me about hormones I simply said her that I don't want to talk about!
I feel absolutely fine on hrt and am at a better place than 2 years ago and of course very very thankful for the forum!!! Thanks you ladies!!!💐😘