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Author Topic: Maybe a daft question?  (Read 2249 times)

Poppi

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Maybe a daft question?
« on: December 28, 2018, 05:13:46 PM »

I'm on amitripyline (Sp?) for an on going long term back problem and after a working life of bad sleep due to work related stress, I now could sleep 10 hours most nights if allowed to.
 My DH, usually understanding (but very anti-pills of any sort, his mum was the same although a wonderful mum in law) We have been rowing bitterly over this as I'm following my GP's advice and sleepy. I have been very busy singing in 3 choirs (practices and concerts) and now it's over I'm worn out. While I could cope with this in my 30s, 40s and earlier 50s, I'm feeling my age and have taken on conducting/directing a small ladies ‘ choir too. Should I be trying to cope better or just make allowances?
DH would be mortified to know I was asking advice about this and I'm not telling him. Just to share with menopausal friends is helping already.
       Poppi x
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CLKD

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Re: Maybe a daft question?
« Reply #1 on: December 28, 2018, 05:36:16 PM »

Is the Amitriptyline helping symptoms?

When did you last change your mattress?  How is your seating position around the house, i.e. sofa, dining chair, garden seating, office chair?  How is your foot-wear in general?  All these can alter our stance - if I had a £ for every lady with bad footwear who waddled down the street  >:(  ::).  The body then compensates which can encourage back pain.

As for telling your husband.  ???  He needs a  :kick: I probably mentioned previously that I will hold him whilst you ..........  ;).  It really is nowt to do with anyone other than yourself, your GP and Pharmacist what you take in order to stay as well and mobile as possible.

You are doing a lot but if this makes you happy then that will be good for your over-all health.  Why should you be coping 'better', what's that mean exactly?  We age.  Inside and out!  Doesn't he??!!??

Why rowing?  Issues only need stating once.  You are a big girl and can make your own decisions. 

One thing I would suggest is to get a blood test to check VitD levels.  18 months ago I would do 20 mins. weeding then have to sit, absolutely still, for 2 hours  :'(.  It was due to lack of VitD and capsules sorted symptoms.  I now know what to look for.

Amitriptlaine did absolutely nowt for me  ::) and nowt is daft on here  ;)

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Poppi

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Re: Maybe a daft question?
« Reply #2 on: December 28, 2018, 06:11:48 PM »

Thanks for replies. The amitrip helps me with poor sleeping too. I've tried others but they upset my stomach and my sleep-husband said I looked good for having lost some weight and was more awake, but I was so “awake” through lack of sleep I felt very unlike my self.
GP happy for me to reduce amitrip if I feel better on lower dose.
Things have been “tetchy” between us since we retired 2 years ago. To our new friends all seems well. DH had huge row with brother 18 months ago and my feelings towards him+sis in law have been proved right. I don't ever say ”told you” (I'm not so petty) but they are making a total fool of him and I'm trying to be supportive but he doesn't want to talk about it. I love him and will not throw 40 years away.
          Poppi x
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Poppi

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Re: Maybe a daft question?
« Reply #3 on: December 28, 2018, 09:43:34 PM »

Yes Hasty, that is a big part of problem too. I feel guilty as I have everything I want except the happiness. I have a strong faith and pray that all will be well. Christmas is a particularly emotional time for me and maybe that's why I'm so down right now, and also more sleepy. Tomorrow is a new day and things will seem better x
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CLKD

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Re: Maybe a daft question?
« Reply #4 on: December 29, 2018, 10:55:51 AM »

He has probably moved on Poppi so doesn't need to talk about it.  Mine is the same.  Issue sorted.

Let that go.  Move forwards. Do you have joint hobbies/?
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Poppi

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Re: Maybe a daft question?
« Reply #5 on: December 30, 2018, 07:07:15 PM »

Hi CLKD
Yes, today is much better and I've explained how much I did in the run up to Christmas on my own, he does help but it's me that does the cards,wrapping  ironing, bed making......,just as every other wife does! I appreciate his in put but yesterday saying that was not enough. Had a better day today, no rushing around and just preparing for friends for New Year (we've chosen to invite 💕 makes a difference!)
So far all going well xx
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Re: Maybe a daft question?
« Reply #6 on: December 30, 2018, 10:09:44 PM »

Put yourself first.  Until we are well we can't be supportive of anyone!  It really is nowt to do with anyone else what your regime is.  If we are hungry do we not eat, it's similar with medication.  If required, use it. 

Enjoy your celebrations ......
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