Oh dear poppi bit like you I'm afraid,should bite my tongue sometimes but can't & it comes out more aggressively than meant.
My husband has been walked over in the past but if like mine your husband is a gentle man it can be difficult for them to be tough in certain cases,don't forget a lot of men don't fret as much as us women.
With my husband it was his spoiled brat of a daughter (who's in her 20s) seemed she only loved her dad when he was handing out to her,always scared she would have a tantrum,like you,I said,let her have a tantrum,what's the problem,I'd have soon told her😂 anyway at long last he HAS stood up to her & yes,she had a huge hissy fit but guess 'what'she has now accepted it and all is calm.
Can you not discuss your feelings calmly with lovely husband?
Life truly is too short for hassle. I wish you all the best,keep us informed xx