Not sure it'll be helpful to you but I had issues absorbing the gel correctly and swapped to patches, I had an adverse reaction to tablets.
When I saw the Menopause Specialist I was using Estradot 100 mcg plus gel and had an Oestrogen level of 194. I was told to use 200 mcg and change it three times a week (to prevent the dips) - my level went to 500-700.
The Specialist said they wanted to make sure I could absorb the patches.
At my last review I discussed reducing the dose and I am now using 175 mcg. I have been reassured to concentrate on symptom control and not what dose I have to use to feel well.
My advice would be to find a Specialist to help support you as it's so hard to see things clearly on your own