Like Taz, I have no specific advice on what to do about your MHT and CPN issue. I suspect if you were to ask your GP they would say that you need to work with the CPN unless you have a specific complaint. You say you don't feel safe with her. It is just that you didn't like her/click with her/feel she was very sympathetic? I suspect so, given what she said on the ‘phone!
I'm up in the middle of the night and I've just looked back at all your posts (ironing finished so I have time!). You are clearly going through awful perimenopause/menopause (like me!) with all the dreadful symptoms that it brings. It can make me feel very isolated and panicky at times and I can relate with your feelings about relying on the CPN and calling her from Spain. I have felt like I need urgent help at times and something just to sort this out NOW!
I've done tons of reading on this forum recently and the advice from lots of the lovely ladies has been invaluable. It's clear that there is no quick fix and that whatever route we take on this journey (HRT or no HRT), we need a mix of therapies anyway and an overall approach. I'm finding (at the moment!) that I'm dealing with the anxiety and mental health issues (not dissimilar to yours) by excercise, distraction, sleep, diet, etc etc. It's not perfect but I'm just about on it.
I don't think I've written anything particularly helpful but just so you know that 1. You're not alone and 2. The CPN and MHT I'm sure will help even if your particular CPN is not your favourite. Maybe try and think about it as not about her but about you and take out the personal feeling. CLKD always says to make a list and say what you want to get out of your next appt. Forget what's happened before and go along with a new approach.
Hoping you are sleeping soundly and will wake up ready to face another week!