Hi jessieblue - you are doing many of the right things but I find the oestrogen cream made me burn - I use Vagifem every 3 days. It doesn't give you thrush but it will help the bladder and urethra - just use a bit of Multi Gyn Actigel or the YES stuff on the morning after you have used the Vagifem. You do need to use Vagifem every night for at least 2 weeks to start with, then reduce to 2-3 times a week - for the rest of you life!!!! Don't use Multi Gyn or vaginal moisturiser at the same time as the local oestrogen or it won't absorb properly. You need local oestrogen to help you whole urogenital area. Don't use Multi Gyn too much as it can be too acidic and cause burning - so only use if you think you need it.
Even with all the prevention techniques, you will get flare ups I'm afraid. When it's hot, if I sit down for too long (especially on leather or plastic chairs) or I haven't drunk enough water - I do start to burn. I tend to fill a 500ml bottle with water and a teaspoon of bicarb of soda (I flavour with a little elderflower cordial) and drink this throughout the day - wear loose clothing, lie down for an hour midday and the burning usually subsidies. I am really scrupulous about cleaning myself after opening my bowels ( I can go 2-4 times a day!!!) to reduce any risk of bacteria travelling to my vagina and causing BV or thrush.
I assume you have stopped all caffeine and fruit juices?
Here is the section from the NICE guidelines about treating urogenital atrophy - you should print this off to show your NHS GP as he/she needs educating!!!:
Urogenital atrophy
1.4.9
Offer vaginal oestrogen to women with urogenital atrophy (including those on systemic HRT) and continue treatment for as long as needed to relieve symptoms.
1.4.10
Consider vaginal oestrogen for women with urogenital atrophy in whom systemic HRT is contraindicated, after seeking advice from a healthcare professional with expertise in menopause.
1.4.11
If vaginal oestrogen does not relieve symptoms of urogenital atrophy, consider increasing the dose after seeking advice from a healthcare professional with expertise in menopause.
1.4.12
Explain to women with urogenital atrophy that:
symptoms often come back when treatment is stopped
adverse effects from vaginal oestrogen are very rare
they should report unscheduled vaginal bleeding to their GP.
1.4.13
Advise women with vaginal dryness that moisturisers and lubricants can be used alone or in addition to vaginal oestrogen.
1.4.14
Do not offer routine monitoring of endometrial thickness during treatment for urogenital atrophy.
DG x