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Coll

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Struggling again !
« on: April 08, 2018, 08:42:53 AM »

Hi again,  I last posted on here at Christmas when I hit an all time low.
Although I was prescribed citalopram 20 I only took it for a couple of weeks as I was desperate not to get the foggy head. I want to be able to function properly at work with a clear head and it does seem to take a while to get them out of your system.(I seem to be able to converse better without anti d s and the reason i first came off prozac was because I had noticed a build up of plaque on my carotid arteries.)

What I did try to do was step up my oestrogel to 3 times a day but any change at all to the hormones makes me much more depressed.
I have been trying to go to the gym every morning before work to run and exercise a bit, but it just seems very hard and quite a bit of time I just think it doesn't seem worth it, except I have 3 children and therefore have no choice.

What I wanted to ask was if I take Hrt and anti ds does that prevent the confused foggy (definitely happy) drugged brain.
Have a very unhappy marriage now and haven t been intimate in a long time, but just waiting for my last child to leave home. Everything else is Ok.
Sorry this is so miserable.

If anyone has any advice on either consistent exercise helping or an anti ds, that doesnt make your head foggy I'd be grateful.



Oestroge 2 pumps.
Tiny bit of testogel daily.
Utrogestan 7 days every 3 months
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Dancinggirl

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Re: Struggling again !
« Reply #1 on: April 08, 2018, 09:58:24 AM »

Coll - sorry to hear things are tough for your right now.  I've only every tried Amitriptyline for 3 weeks, prescribed for back pain, and couldn't take the side effects so can't advice about ADs.

My only thoughts are; reading your post, you do seem to be taking on too much and though you say everything is OK apart from you marriage - I believe you are really struggling inside and your confidence is rock bottom. Drugs are probably not the answer to your problems. If HRT is controlling your flushes then that's great and I wouldn't mess with dosage as this won't necessarily help anything else.
Why are you waiting for your youngest child to leave home before doing something about you unhappy marriage? Your youngest child may not leave home for many years and life is short, so don't make them feel guilty that you put up with a bad marriage for their sake.  Do you discuss the future with you husband? When exactly are you both going to do something positive to improve things?  Children sense when things aren't right and it can be just as damaging for them to be with parents who are unhappy together than parents who have separated.  If you are feeling depressed, overwhelmed, foggy headed etc, because of an unhappy personal relationship, this really can't be good for your children - taking ADs is not going to fix that. 
Over exercising can be as bad as under exercising - going to the gym every morning is not necessarily the best way to exercise - 3-4 times a week of really good sessions is better.  Why not join some dance classes which will give you the exercise but would be more fun?  A good yoga class may well be better than a session at the gym.   You seem to feel guilty if you don't exercise and do everything possible to make things right - stop beating yourself up.   Do you do things your really enjoy? Do you have a supportive group of friends? Do you practise relaxation techniques? 
Life is about balance and ADs may not be the answer but a really good look at you lifestyle and priorities may be what you need. Be a bit more selfish  - your children will be proud of you if you follow your own path - after all, it's what you want them to do, isn't it?  DG x
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Re: Struggling again !
« Reply #2 on: April 08, 2018, 12:36:42 PM »

So - isn't it better to have a fuzzy head and not other symptoms  :-\.  My head hasn't been clear for years including when I was in a busy jobs, I did have to encourage myself to write more reminder notes  ::)

I would love to join a dance class but Himself  :-X  ::) ............

What is wrong with the marriage that a good talk through won't help?  You have raised 3 children and over the years people alter, we haven't kids but have problems with communication - often [and yesterday I worked out why  ;)].  What difference would your child leaving make in reality?  Is that an excuse not to look for alternatives?  Mum said she stayed with Dad 'for the sake of the children' [long story short  :'(].  She lied to me [another long story short ...... ]

Think about what you need right now.  Where would you like to be in 6 weeks' time and in 3 months' time.  Give your financial issues a good sort so that you know exactly what you need to stay and what it might cost to move on (sorry if you have done already).  That will clear your head of the "I need to leave but ........ " issues. 

You are stressing about going to the gym every morning, that won't help how you are feeling.  Do you and the children go for walks at weekends and now the evenings are lighter, maybe go out with them 2/3 evenings in the week.  They need exercise too ;-). It's me time, if not all together than split the walking between them.  I know that we should walk a lot more ......... and I love it when I see families out together as too much time is spent on social media etc..  ;)

How did you notice a build up of plaque  :-\ - what made you suspect that the prozac was causing any such problems  :-\ :-\.  It made me angry  :cuss:  ::) ......... but the ADs I've had since have given no problems.  They don't have to be taken for ever though I have been advised 2 take them for Life otherwise ..........
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Coll

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Re: Struggling again !
« Reply #3 on: April 08, 2018, 08:51:36 PM »

Thank you for your replies ladies,
I just thought I felt a bit better when I could do some exercise and wandered had anyone else felt the benefits. I was just trying to do  everything to prevent  having to rely on the anti d s. 
I had read some research papers on the build up of plaque after I noticed it at an ultrasound  scan.

Feeling quite a bit better this evening, but the morning's are really hard but it seems to be a common finding.
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Dancinggirl

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Re: Struggling again !
« Reply #4 on: April 09, 2018, 07:24:03 AM »

Oh yes Coll - the mornings are very tough.  It takes quite a bit of mental and physical determination for me to get going in the morning these days. 15-30 mins of Mindfulness really helps me.   DG x
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