Hi Paloma
from me too!
Sorry to hear about your symptoms and I have to agree with Mary G that HRT is the only treatment that will eliminate or greatly reduce them.
The good news is that if you take the right HRT it is not considered to be drugs as such - in that it does what it says on the tin "Hormone Replacement Therapy" - ie you are simply replacing a hormone that has become deficient - and you might live until you are 90 - so could live 40 years post-menopause, and in an oestrogen deficient state.
Now some women will "sail through" without symptoms, and others won't. Even those who do (sail through), will still become oestrogen deficient with the potential health consequences such as declining cardio-vascular system, osteoporosis, vaginal atrophy and bladder problems - in later life - which they would not attribute to menopause.
You may not want to go into your other health issues eg re kidney function- but as far as I understand it this is not a contra-indication to HRT. In any case if you take transdermal oestrogen ( as estradiol - patch or gel) with separate progesterone - especially if vaginally, then you are taking "body-identical" HRT in the most natural way possible. Oral HRT is not the best for reduced sex drive - but transdermal may well help. Some women also benefit from testosterone although it can be difficult to get this on NHS.
Hope this helps and do ask more questions if you think we can help
Hurdity x