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[Daisydot]

Well done on the date Jeepers that alone will make you feel human again I'm so pleased for you that took guts.id plod away with the meds for the time being if I was you as you will find that as soon as you resolve that sleep deprivation your life will change,grab naps when you can and if your awake in the wee hours then big deal watch a film or read a good book but keep napping and rest your mind that's the secret to better health,good luck you will get there xx

[CLKD]

Worrying about not sleeping starts a circle of "will I sleep tonight", "what if I don't sleep tonight"  ......... I dropped off this afternoon during MotoGP qualifying  ........ feel rested now.

Stay safe!   

[Bring me Sunshine]

That emoji is hilarious!!!!

[lovesflorida]

Really feel for you- menopause is bloody awful- and most people don't understand what you are going through and even make jokes about it- I feel like a hypochondriac most days but think it's all part and parcel of the menopause. Hope you feel better soon 😘

[Jeepers]

Hi All

Thank you for all your replies.  Yesterday was quite a good day.  I went to yoga, which I have really missed (I haven't been to any fitness classes for nearly three weeks following the biopsy on my shoulder).  My nexk and shoulder were not aching so much, and I think the stressful time it has been at work may be part of the reason its een so bad.  That said, its back a bit today, so I have booked a sessions with a chiropractor in the week.  Am still taking my Vit D and Calcium, and have added Magnesium to the mix. I was taking Omega 3, but stopped when I read that it could cause prostate cancer (I know, I know.  I don't have one (and even I am laughing as I type this, but it made me wonder if suddenly they will find it causes other things too).

In the afternoon, I baked bread and a banana loaf, had a long soak in the bath, and was able to feel less anxious , which was really nice, even if not a permanent state of affairs.

I have managed to get a bit more sleep, and thanks to the snow and bad weather, I have managed to get a few things done at home, which is making me feel a little less overwhelmed.

Knorman -- Yes, I did have a lot of hobbies (always pushing myself). I scuba dived, member of canoe club, climbed (I am a member of a climbing wall and have a group of wonderful women on my whatsapp who climb twice a week), go to the gym 4-5 times a week, and played classical guitar.  Well, when I said my world was getting smaller -- Did not go to canoe club last year after my Dad died, never seem to get the time to go to the climbing wall, Diving not since Christmas, and have not picked up my guitar in nearly a year.  This is because I was learning a piece to play to my Dad, but I never got the chance, and it broke my heart.  (I know my Dad would not want me to give up).  I have definitely lost my mojo.

Shame about the guitar, as it was quite cathartic.

lovesflorida -- glad you said that, I thought I was just a miserable biddy, because I hate it if people make jokes about menopausal women.

CLKD -  hahahaha, I haven't got that far!  I chaste peck and hug at the end of the night, don't think I need any protection just yet.  Both of the dates went well, and both have asked to see me again,  now I don't know what to do! I'm not even sure if I am capable of a romantic relationship.  My walls are very high, and I find it hard to be emotionally vulnerable in that way.  But, I don't want meaningless sex either (I would only beat myself up afterwards).

Right, today I AM going to email DR Currie, but Im not sure how to start?  Anyone got any pointers?

Oh, yes, almost forgot to mention.. I got my biopsy result yesterday... It was a benign lesion, all harmless.  Yes, yesterday was a good day :-D

Jeepers x


 

[Daisydot]

Hi jeepers don't get stressed about your email to dr currie she will correspond with you it's not just a one hit wonder.do a basic introduction outlining the problems your having and give her a bit of history,age where you are in meno,basic medical history ie hysterectomy or not painful periods or not just to help her help you.she will respond with an email asking any relevant questions and then if you've missed anything you can include that she will then give you advice that you can print off and take to gp just giving her recommendations.shell take a few days to get back to you just try and be patient it's worth the wait.good luck xx

[Jeepers]

Hi

Well, wouldn't you know it, the email Dr Currie facility is suspended until tomorrow 

I have been reading a website called My menopause Doctor, and have started wondering if it would be simpler and quicker (albeit more expensive, but hey ho) to just go privately.  Reading that website made me feel much more positive about taking the next step.  I don't know if there is anywhere nearer to me, and if so, if it will be accessible without a referral.  I tried to postcode search thing, and the nearest was Oxford, which is just under 30 miles away.

[Daisydot]

If you can afford to go private then don't hesitate it's not worth it.I emailed dr currie printed off email and went armed to gp,he couldn't have been more disinterested,who is this woman he said, plonker.
I then went to private meno expert,changed gps after advice and got pretty much the same response although with a bit of battling and confrontation from both of us we did get there eventually,it's not been easy but I've actually found now I don't need them,with the meno consultants help and my persistence I've got a treatment regime that helps me 99% I just need to solve the  problem lol but that's more in my head now I think.Ive got another consultant in mind Louise Newson in Solihull that I'll travel to when I'm ready I have heard good things about her.just keep researching and checking out names till you find someone you can get to easily.its not something you have to do very often and it'll pay you in the long run.good luck xx

[CLKD]

Why not go out with both?   A friend has a buddy for theatre, a different one for walking the dogs with, another to go shopping weekly - they are all aware of each other, no secrets enables everyone to do their own thing/s without being under pressure 

Glad that your biopsy is FINE! 

No point in suffering if you can go privately, however, make sure that the Specialist is Meno-savvy!

[knorman]

Morning Jeepers

Hold onto that good day and remember it, more will follow. Once we know we can keep a handle on it, it really helps.  I'm very pleased to hear that you managed to relax.  I also took advantage of the snowy weather and we blitzed the house and sorted through a load of stuff.  We have four years of chaos where stuff has built up in the house due to my CFS/ME! Starting to be on top of it certainly does help that overwhelmed feeling.

I agree with CLKD and go out with both.  You don't have to be looking for a relationship at this point, just to enjoy someone's company and have some fun.
 
Good news on your test results! x

[Jeepers]

Hi all


Update -- after feeling a bit more in control having decided to take some action, I have come back down to earth with a bump.  I emailed the menopause clinic in Solihull and e few days later received a reply saying that their clinic was full, but I was welcome to register for their new clinic that is opening in Stratford early summer.  I did register, but now feel like I am in limbo.  I don't know if I should look for another clinic?  Does anyone have any recommendations for anywhere near to Cheltenham?  I don't mind traveling a bit, but I don't want to go to London, as it triggers my anxiety.

Or should I even try my GP? I don't feel very hopeful there.

I will see both dates again.  After all, I haven't crossed any lines, so realistically they are just "friends" at the moment.  I might even go on a third, if I can muster the enthusiasm.  Work continues to be a bit full on, so I don't have a lot of surplus energy. 

I bought a mindful book today, which teaches meditation, and comes with a CD with guided meditations.  I think if I can get to grips with it, it will make a difference, and maybe the palpitation will decrease, or if not, I will cope with them a little better.

thank you to you all, for being so kind. 

Jeepers  x

[Bring me Sunshine]

Hi Jeepers

This was my reply last week
You are going in the right direction.  Yes that is right about the progestorone and mine is delivered via the merina coil.

The JR Menopause unit at Oxford may well be an option as I am under them and I live 23 miles away. The email for the specialist to be referred to is: [email protected]

Its great you are having dates that's a really positive step too.

The inner peace will come as soon as you are feeling better.  You are pursuing things which is super.

Keep going and dont quit x


Is it worth asking if you can be referred there? its not that far from you and 23 miles away from where I live.  They have been super to me!

[Jeepers]

Hi Sunshine

Yes, of course you did, sorry, I had completely forgotten.  I have emailed today to ask if they would accept a referral from where I am.  I also tried to make an appointment with my GP, but it was fully booked (they only book two weeks in advance), so they told me to ring back on Monday to see if I can get one then.  Its all a bit of a scrum, but I will try to phone early.

So, still feeling a bit deflated as I really wanted to feel like something was going to happen.  I suppose I am just impatient, but feeling rubbish can make you feel like that I suppose? 

Today I got really shaky this morning when I popped out for some milk.  My hands were shaking, felt like another sugar crash.  I'm not sure , but could that be hormone related?  I also went  dizzy this afternoon, momentarily.  All these things are making me feel very anxious, its like a vicious circle.

Daisydot - what is a banana problem? 

Jeepers x

[Daisydot]

😂😂jeepers you made me blush there it's not a banana problem it's a jiggy problem ( no nookie) serves me right for trying to be clever with emojis lol.xx

[Jeepers]

   Oh, hahaha, Daisydot, that has really made me laugh, and lifted my spirits after a rubbish day. 

I'm trying to solve that problem too.... hence the dating.