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[Tiamaria]

Please tell me that I am not the only woman who is having a raw deal with the perimenopause and mental health. Some days can be alright were I am managing to keep my head above water other days are killing me off. The slightest thing that goes wrong is a disaster I can't seem to talk myself down in to a logical state of calmness. I want to walk out of my job as its all too much and people irritate me to the point of insanity. I want to run away to be on my own for a while.

There was a time when I used to get a bit of pmt but now this is in a league of its own. Fourty days between periods is a long time. I think the unpredictability of them is another stress factor because I am always waiting from day 23-28 just in case it all changes again.

What on earth can I do to feel a little more normal because right now I am so miserable. If one more person laughs and tells me its just the menopause I won't be responsible for my actions. Perhaps when the time comes for my lovely colleagues to have their menopause they might finally understand.

Help I need some advice before I drive myself insane or to a remote island.

[Dotty]

Are you on HRT?

[Tiamaria]

Are you on HRT?

Hi I am quite reluctant to use hrt for the simple fact one of my friends has breast cancer and is at stage one of the disease, she was told if she had taken hrt then she would have been at stage three. On the flip side off this another friend who's mum had breast cancer twice has taken hrt and she said its changed her life. Although she does have attend mammograms every year. I am very unclear about hrt and to be honest a little nervous about medication.

[Daisydot]

Don't be nervous about hrt tiamaria there's so many options now and lots of ladies on here can give you good advice and the benefit of their experience to help you decide.they are much more clued up than any gp I've dealt with so be patient and some one will come along and give you some lovely helpful advice xx

[Emerald2017]

Please tell me that I am not the only woman who is having a raw deal with the perimenopause and mental health. Some days can be alright were I am managing to keep my head above water other days are killing me off. The slightest thing that goes wrong is a disaster I can't seem to talk myself down in to a logical state of calmness. I want to walk out of my job as its all too much and people irritate me to the point of insanity. I want to run away to be on my own for a while.

There was a time when I used to get a bit of pmt but now this is in a league of its own. Fourty days between periods is a long time. I think the unpredictability of them is another stress factor because I am always waiting from day 23-28 just in case it all changes again.

What on earth can I do to feel a little more normal because right now I am so miserable. If one more person laughs and tells me its just the menopause I won't be responsible for my actions. Perhaps when the time comes for my lovely colleagues to have their menopause they might finally understand.

Help I need some advice before I drive myself insane or to a remote island.
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You are not alone! I'm 42 and meno was a real nightmare for me! I was home all day crying. Hrt gave my life back. Meno means aging, death, depression and meaningless life for me. I can function properly now, I can go on with my life and my work. I want hrt forever! 🌹

[racjen]

I have to say that as someone who's been through breast cancer herself I can't quite understand how anyone can make such a definitive statement about what HRT would or wouldn't have done - cancer is notoriously unpredictable. My cancer was triple negative so I'm able to take HRT, but obviously by doing so I'm putting myself at the same risk as anyone else of developing a new, hormone driven cancer. However, my menopausal symptoms have been so bad I figure the (small) risk is worth it - quality of life is important too.