I was going to post this to Lucyloo as CLKD said she had 0 - I now realise what you mean CLKD !
so posting to both now lol
Narcisstic mother and 100% toxic - still around at 80 and is a poor old woman who has no money (spent it all on herself, when I had a Saturday and holiday job from age 13 - 18 I had to give her my pay packet as I was eating in her house! I did more than my fair share of the housework so was just a doormat, but still tried so hard to please her) My sister is a mummy's girl and has been for 55 years, she is also toxic and to be avoided. I havn't spoken to either in almost 10 years and my life is so much better. We have a brother who I get on with but sister hates, he visits TM but doesnt put up with her nonesense, but it gets to him. After a drink too many at Christmas he told me that my TS and TM think I'm schizophrenic (I'm not) because I tell lies (I don't) and I'm "unstable" as I was on anti-depressants because of Toxic parents (I had bad post natal depression brought on by a huge row because of the date we chose for child 2's christening and it didn't suit them!!)
This is not really a sob story as I decided when I was 50 that enough was enough, and neither me nor my family were going to be miserable due to their narcisstic ways. It's not worth having a miserable life - it's THEIR choice to treat us like dirt so we can choose NOT to be treated that way. I blame my father as he could not stand up to her and sister was his favourite (told me when I was 12 and she was 8 that as we were both his daughters, he could pick a favourite if he wanted to) I remember nice walks with him before she was born and he would read lots to me, sadly it was his choice to behave as he did.
I'm off to bed now to see if I can sleep !
(there will be none of that!)
Poppi x