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[Dancinggirl]

Hi All
I thought you might like to read my email to the FigLeaves website. Anyone else struggling to find some good nightwear?
DG xxx

Hi there

I'm desperately looking for a good nightdress - looked at your site this morning and there was nothing suitable.

I would like to offer a suggestion: 

Roughly 50% of women suffer with peri and post menopause symptoms that include night sweats and an inability to control their body temperature generally - so we can really feel the extremes of heat and cold.  I am in my 60s and still suffering hot nights or often feeling extremely cold, and for many this never subsides.

Wearing pajamas or anything around the legs, can make our ‘lady bits' really hot, so can encourage thrush, Bacterial Vaginitis, Cystitis and other problems due to excessive sweating in that area - these issues are common after menopause hits.

Looser fitting, yet pretty (hopefully sexy) nightdresses, in fabrics that wick away moisture and help to keep us cool or warm, would be wonderful. I personally like a nightdress that has a ‘V' neck button front with short sleeves, as this is flattering and practical - with neck and shoulder problems it is great to be able to slip the night-dress off downwards instead of over the head.

I don't want a frumpy ‘old ladies' nightdress or a T shirt type night shirt and I don't want skimpy little chemises - I want something that looks and feels really feminine - feeling feminine and desirable as we age is really important.

I'd really like soft fabrics with a good, slightly generous cut, in flattering colours - please avoid patterned fabric if possible.  Fine jersey cotton is great but I know there are new fabrics that are helpful for temperature control. So essentially, a nightdress that is soft with a flattering neckline, well cut and in pretty colours - nothing twee, tight and unflattering.

Do look at the website www.menopausematters.co.uk  - if you want to find out more.  I'm sure you will find there are many customers who would really like someone to produce comfortable, practical(washes well) and sophisticated night-dresses - just because we are over 50, we are definitely ‘not over the hill'.

Do tap into this fast growing market.

Best Wishes

[Salad]

I've not heard of this company but will go and have a browse - love shopping 

Let us know if you get any response.
I tend to stick to shorts and vest top type pyjamas as I tend to sleep with a leg thrown out over the duvet - think that's my form of temperature control!

[walkingthedog]

You have made me think
I sleep naked but maybe if I wore something I could then throw covers off and stay warm
May try it tonight

[Butterfly22]

What a great idea, I can't sleep with anything more then shorts and thin vest or I wake sweating. Xx

[Dancinggirl]

I have never worn Pyjama bottoms or pants in bed as I tend to be more prone to BV or thrush due to the lack of air circulation - I feel it is good to air ones 'lady bits' as much as possible. One must have to wash the shorts or pyjama bottoms after each wearing as well - a lot of extra washing. DG x

[Pennyfarthing]

I wear sleeveless nighties which I buy from M & Co.  they're knee length and very comfy.  I have to wear cotton pants in bed otherwise OH gets too excited!!  😂😂😂

[JaneinPen]

When I started with the memo at 42 I was living in a hot country and in desperation one night I borrowed a pair of my husbands cotton boxers. As he has a small frame the medium size were perfect and perfect they were. After a few trial nights I went out and bought 3 different colours and have worn a variety of these ever since along with the stretchy bra tops with no fastenings you can buy in all colours in a lot of shops. The well known department store where a lot of us buy our knickers have a great selection. I have a lovely variety of colours and with a nice wide leg on the shorts I am always comfortable

[CLKD]

Why R U wearing anything at all?   

[Salad]

Why R U wearing anything at all?   

My reason for wearing something is a lifelong worry of a housefire breaking out overnight and having to climb down a ladder with  firemen underneath 

[JaneinPen]

Same here Salad plus I would rather have changed bed clothes when going through meno than constantly changing the sheets. Now I just wouldn't feel comfortable especially when I am desperate for the loo in the night!!!

[JaneinPen]

Did you get a reply Dancingirl?

[Dancinggirl]

Yes, they did reply.  They said there was a nightdress that fitted the description - I had found a DKNY nightie, in grey, but not in my size - it also had longish sleeves which would be too hot for me.  They did say they would feed things back to their buyers.

It's been interesting to hear from fellow forum members about this - with so many trips to hotel bathroom in the night I certainly couldn't go naked - I also would get so cold around my shoulders if the covers came away in my sleep and I'd get a ‘frozen' shoulder or back. I'm really surprised that so many of you seem fine wearing pants or shorts - just shows how different we all are with our preferences.  DG x

[CLKD]

We never share a bathroom it's always en-suite.  We were caught in a fire alarm last year in a Hotel - stupid woman in another room knew that her hair straighteners were dodgy but plugged them in anyway  ....... fortunately she told the Manager after the Alarms went [Himself didn't hear them]; by which time we were outside in the early morning sunshine ; who was able to put the Fire Brigade off from attending.  I always have a nighty at the bottom of the bed along with mobile and handbag, apparently I flung the nighty on back-2-front 

I do wear pyjamas when at Mum's.  In case we meet on the landing  .  Otherwise .......

[Vieja Bruja]

I used to feel the cold until I became peri, I slept in pants, vest top and socks (passion killer) and had an electric blanket and a thick duvet.

Now I can't stand to wear socks or pants in bed, occasionally I lose the vest top.  The electric blanket is at the tip and has been replaced by a 'chillow'.

Finding practical yet stylish nightwear is at the top of my list just now so I'm following this thread with excited anticipation 

[Joaniepat]

Being well past the hot flush stage I don't mind sleeves on a nightdress for winter, but do not wear anything below the waist as it is better for my VA. I have similar problems to you DG, when it comes to finding anything suitable and non-frumpy. If I do find anything it seems I can have any colour I Iike as long as it's grey. Well done for writing to them.
JP xx