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CLKD

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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #15 on: August 09, 2017, 06:20:10 PM »

I have improved at the dentist in recent years.  My Dentist gives me time ......... and we have lots of gaps  ;)
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #16 on: August 10, 2017, 10:32:36 AM »

Been to dentist and everything is fine!!  As usual after health scare, I feel very foolish...  But thanks everybody for caring.

I am determined to get some help now so it doesn't get a grip again.   The thing is, I knew in the back of my mind that all was OK, but still let the gremlins well and truly in.   They're still lurking now, but am trying to shut them out!
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #17 on: August 10, 2017, 10:25:15 PM »

That's one issue out of the way then Rebel! 

Gaps in that I put up my hand when I need the dentist to stop, well done sparkle, you got it  ;D.  I have 3 implants so far .......
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #18 on: August 13, 2017, 09:08:16 PM »

Gosh I could have written this. I have managed to ruin every holiday for the last 5 years with worrying about some ' fatal' suspected illness. I have been at the doctors with stomach / bowl / breast / headache / tingling / brain fog / tirdness - let alone all the weird period cycles and gunk. Years of the best years of my life wasted with trying to manage my thoughts. It is almost an addiction I would say, my brain needs the ' excitement' of the latest health worry.  I feel deeply selfish and pathetic. I don't like to bang on about it but 'Headspace' is a great (free) App which helps you step back from your thoughts rather then get caught up in them. I also find jogging helps. But I havn;t found a cure. (Recently I had another round of GP / scan / blood tests as I had a slightly raised liver function blood test. Turned out it was because I had taken Menopause herbal tabs (bought online) which I was taking to help me anxiety!! They had caused the test blib so I put myself through all the 6 months of test to find out everything was normal once I stopped taking the tabs. The GP told me that was the case but I still had to have the scans / repeat tests...I was convinced I had liver disease! I think having kids was my trigger as I am terrified I won't be there for them. Hugs
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #19 on: August 15, 2017, 11:43:28 AM »

Totally agree Sparkle. This forum has been amazing as I don't have any friends that seem to be in the same zone as me; they either don't seem to have any problems with peri or they are at a different life stage. I am going through a stage where I am peering anxiously at the toilet paper as my periods seem to go on for every. I had it all well and truely checked out last year but just can't relax or ENJOY LIFE. If only I had known 3 year ago that all those things would turn out life...I could have lived 100% for the day. A big one for me for a whole year was gas but that has sorted itself out too......god only knows what sort of paranoid pensioners we will turn into!
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #20 on: August 19, 2017, 07:15:36 AM »

What makes me sad is I realised recently that this 24/7 back ground worry IS me. Before I was waiting for it to ' go away' and the 'old' me to come back - worry free. For year I thought this. But this year I reaslie that worry has become the normal for me so me challenge is to learn to distance myself from it but realise I can't just banish it. I went back to the doc AGAIN yeaterday with my worry about discharge and period length (two visits in two weeks!). I had to be reassured again that it was just peri and everything has been checked out. But part of me thiks they have missed something. I know this isn't logical. Anyway today I WILL ENJOY MY DAY AND NOT WORRY!!
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #21 on: August 19, 2017, 01:19:41 PM »

Maybe Roseneath keep a diary?  I had so much going on in my Life as I went into peri - 4 pets very ill - that I didn't have time to worry about my periods disappearing other than 'thank goodness'  ::).  Mine came and went with longer gaps between for a couple of years then stopped.  I didn't stop carrying protection though for 5 years  ::)
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #22 on: August 20, 2017, 08:22:10 AM »

Hi

I have had HA for a number of years. The obsessing over your own health is bad enough, but do other people have that stomach drop feeling when their kids complain of symptoms/pain.

It seems like a never ending merry go round of anxiety.

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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #23 on: August 20, 2017, 01:14:19 PM »

Welcome to the thread tgisue - I don't deal with anyone else feeling ill, coughing, turning pale  :'(
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #24 on: August 28, 2017, 01:28:42 PM »

Can I ask what you guys do on your worst days? I am finding just before my period is the worst. I thought it was the HRT making the anxiety much worse but here I am a month later on and even though I am HRT free I still feel in that ' flight or fright' state most of the day. My wind is terrible from both ends today, I am convinced I am going to have a heart attack any moment, I feel tearful.  Have tried all my Mindfullness, keeping busy, going for a walk  but still found myself curled up on the floor in a ball feeling terrified. Can;t talk to my husband. Am sick of going to the GPs. Work from home so can;t get out. I know in a few days it will shift but how can I get through the day??
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #25 on: August 28, 2017, 01:33:12 PM »

You have my sympathy as I also work from home.  I must admit that when I get stuck in to work I find my HA symptoms drift away but I am finding it harder and have decided that I need some serious counselling to get to the root cause.   

Perhaps try and get some CBT or other counselling via your GP?

As short term relief I go for a run or a brisk walk.
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #26 on: August 28, 2017, 04:43:14 PM »

Thanks Rebel2. I actually had NHS counelling for HA a few months ago and it made it worse ironically enough! I think by talking about it every week and having to keep a diary it made me get obsessive. I am worse now about it than I have been in 3 years. My gut feel is that it is all down to hormones and so far I haven't found anything that really helps on the bad days. When I'm down I can't see that it is temporary. I think I just tense up and panic and my body does weird things that increase the panic.
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #27 on: August 28, 2017, 08:44:58 PM »

Many here will be having BOTH physical anxiety from hormone volatility and psychological anxiety from what you're telling yourself. The latter also leads to physical anxiety but it also can escalate to a much higher degree due to the subconscious listening to what you're saying and presuming you're in true danger - hence the desperate fight or flight feelings.

The physical state is likely due to adrenaline surging as the brain tries to force the heart to beat faster etc. when there is an unexpected hormone plummet (or rise in early peri when oestrogen can over-stimulate).

To stop the emotional escalation it's important not to distract and to face up to what you're saying to yourself and then rationalise it. So you can accept hormones can cause the initial physical anxiety and then also accept the sensations and deduce that nothing terrible is going to happen as it's the self talk of "oh my god, I'm terrified, what is happening, I'm having a heart attack!!!!" etc. that creates the psychological anxiety on top of the physical. This can be habitual from the subconscious where you don't realise you're thinking it. To over-ride it you say to yourself "it's ok, I'll be ok, it's not the end of the world, it's a really uncomfortable feeling but I can stand it" etc. These are true statements unlike the previous and will start to calm you down. They can't help the hormonal anxiety but it will help you cope with it by not going into sheer panic.

It will feel unnatural to think calmly when your body is so stressed but with time and repetition it will form new habits and you will slowly gain back control. Also breathe out strongly and for longer than you breathe in as when we panic we do the opposite and start to hyperventilate. Pushing air out will also reverse physical panic brought in by worrying.
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #28 on: August 29, 2017, 10:36:11 AM »

Sadly for me the anxiety is physical - no amount of talking to myself has helped because it is so sudden and within seconds I am curled into a ball wanting to die  :'(

When I wake anxious I go into auto-matic pilot and get on with chores: getting dressed, washed, light breakfast, cuppa etc..  As the day goes by and my breakfast kicks in I begin to feel better ........ I never plan any further than half a day ahead ........... Deep breathing can help.  Sitting quietly in the cool, concentrating on the muscle groups all the way up my body has helped too ......... my music teacher told me that not many people breath correctly so singing is good, when I was extremely stressed and working in a kennels I sang every morning - the 1st morning all the dogs shut up to listen, after that they joined in  ::)

Also, eat little and often!
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Re: Some thoughts on Health Anxiety...
« Reply #29 on: August 29, 2017, 05:51:37 PM »

CLDK and Dangermouse - your tips are really useful. Having people understand and not think I am off my trolley has been invaluable.
I curl into a ball and feel immobalised too and somedays I find just doing the Mindfullness for a few seconds is a challenge.  My husband has no sympathy. He actually told me I should be in a loony bin once. But I am strong.
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