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[br350]

Agree with CKLD and Julation. I find when my body can remain calm, my mind follows.  Although certain anxious thoughts spark the body to physical sensations of anxiety.  In general, I try to keep my body as 'quiet' as possible.  I use a benzo when I need it and knowing it's there is a Godsend. Bless you all ladies!

[Daisycat]

Ladies, I can report a small glimmer of hope.  Yesterday I drove on the M25 with no panic attacks or feelings of anxiety.  This is a first for me in a long time as it's where I had such a bad attack a couple of years ago I literally thought I was going to die, and I'm really not exaggerating.  I don't do it that often but it was the first time since I've been feeling generally better, not perfect but better.  Just wanted to share as I know when you're going through it you can't imagine ever feeling better again, ever.

S x

This is great news for me, my driving area shrank and shrank when I spent a year or more driving up the M6 with those vile 'managed motorways' and no chance of escape from the lorries!! (my youngest - at 16 was having chemo).

My own sister gave up driving and now knows partly why she did thanks to you lot!

I am hanging on in there.  I will be so happy when I can drive on motorways again

Thank you and to Sparkle too with her story of the lady who feared shops.

xx

[Jenna]

That's wonderful, Sparkle, and such a sense of achievement as well I would imagine! 

[paisley]

I can really relate to these fears because before I started the menopause I also had Post Natal Depression after my 2nd child in 1992 & just like the menopause the anxiety crippled me. My triggers for panic attacks were going out into public spaces & flying. I used to love flying before all the hormonal stuff. That lasted for about 9 years & was left with some mild anxiety. The positive was I could go out to restaurants again but the flying thing has never really left me. I try to avoid flying but sometimes I have to cos I live in Spain & I am a nightmare. If I have an early flight I have to have a glass of wine at 6 in the morning to take the edge of it. My family think it is funny but it is most definitely not. Same with meno anxiety & depression are the worse symptoms for me. But at least this time I can still go out to eat. Sometimes I will be out & can feel a panic attack come on & I try to ride it out which is very hard to do cos your brain does not think rationally but I am determined to still go & do social things. I got over PND & so I am sure we can all get through menopause too xx

[DaisyB]

Sparkle that is terrific - so happy for you xx also gives hope to those of us that are struggling to see light at the end of the tunnel. I woke this morning and instantly scanned my whole body. Felt a heaviness in my arm and some pins and needles and the anxiety getting ready to escalate. I'm keeping a journal because I've a feeling there are peaks and troughs that must be hormone related. Still on CBD oil - and it seems to be helping a lot with the 'low' level anxiety but still struggling with the panic episodes.
I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart for sharing.
I also ordered sepia and arson alb homeopathy- not hopeful it will be strong enough but I'll post in the homeopathy thread xx

[Mbrown001]

That's great news sparkle.

I'm another one who struggles with driving on motorways. In fact I just don't do it as I don't feel safe. I'm not that keen on being a passenger either to be honest. Everything seems to whizz by too fast and makes me dizzy.

I regularly used to share driving to London and it never bothered me.

I think the driving thing was one of my first peri symptoms although I had not got a clue at the time.....the lightheaded feeling that lots of us seem to have.
I blamed my ears 


I still live in hope though.


Mrs Brown

[Yammy1]

That's great sparkle, well done. I'm amazed at how many of us have the driving fear. With me it's definitely the fear of feeling dizzy and out of control, I'm sitting here on my bed so uncomfortably hot wondering will life ever be normal again . My anxiety also started after my daughter was born in 1991, it came and went throughout the years, but since meno it's back with a vengeance and it feels like it's here for good . All we can do is ride the storm and hope for the best, but at least we're not alone on this horrible meno journey x

[DaisyB]

Hasty I'd have dropped him off at the nearest train station

[CLKD]

Julation -  and tnx for joining in!

I don't rely on the emergency med because I know that when anxiety floors me it calms the nerves in my gut within 20-40 mins..  I suppose that's hopeful?

I find that I have driven less in the last 6 years and haven't managed to reverse the new car in a straight line yet  but have been OK going forwards although it does worry me a bit.  As for motorway driving, never have .........

[paisley]

Yammy1 that just proves it even more the hormonal connection. I always had PMT then PND & now menopause. You would think with all the doctors in this world they would have done massive amounts of research into all these hormonal connections & come up with a solution. I am of the opinion because we are all so different that the remedy should be tailor made for the individual & not one size fits all. We & future generations shouldn't have to put up with all these fears caused by hormones.

[Mbrown001]

I did look at that book on Kindle. I kind of dismissed it as I try to read uplifting things but if you think it's good sparkle then I may well give it a go.


Mrs Brown

[Mbrown001]

I will have a look at the reviews.....although I'm sure I could possibly lash out 99p lol.

Mrs Brown

[DaisyB]

I follow her on Twitter sparkle - she did first interview with prince Harry chatting about his mental health. Was really good xx

[DaisyB]

No   I was interested in the mental health angle - but didn't think of a connection to what I am going through. Think I'll get it now 

[Yammy1]

Totally agree Paisley,  we are all individuals fighting different battles all because of hormones. I think if there were more women in medical research then just maybe more would be done. That book sounds very interesting, must have a peek.