Hi! This message starts with a disclaimer... I'm a) new to sharing my feelings on line b) not one for asking for sympathy and c) not normally miserable..... but it's been suggested that I start a new thread with a little more information about me, in case anyone out there can give me some positive suggestions! So, here goes...
I am 48 and think if I've been peri menopausal for around 10 years or so. I'm a bit hazy on facts because I had a mirena coil for years which completely stopped my periods. Great at the time, saved a fortune, but looking back perhaps helped to cause some issues because it wasn't clear what was happening in my body. I was diagnosed with chorio carcinoma in 97 and told I'd probably have an early menopause, and around 2006 started getting recurrent urine infections. Several operations and years later, including the removal of an ovary (don't ask why, I think it was so my consultant could claim more from bupa), it was suggested that I could be menopausal. I had patches, the coil and pessaries... but hot flushes etc started getting out of hand so was put on tibolone.
That's a potted history which has got me here today.
The reason for my post is that I feel dreadful. Hot flushes and palpitations, aside, I just feel so sad. I feel that my life, as I know and enjoy it, has ended. I have put on 2 kgs per month since starting the hrt and I'm renovating a house... which means I'm not sitting still and am physically active, every day. I don't eat rubbish and don't feel like I should deserve to have put on a stone in the last 6 months. Because of that, I feel unattractive, lumpy and just ugly. I can't think straight. I'm starting a new job soon and am terrified that I won't be able to mentally cope. I feel like I won't be able to enjoy my life again, that there is no use for me, that I'm worthless. I feel like I have lost 'me' and the new me is someone that I don't like. There just doesn't seem any point to it anymore.
I know I must sound shallow and ridiculous... after all.. countless women are going through the same, probably have it far worse ... but can it get better? If so, how do others cope?