Hi Jemp
You sound exactly like me! My menopause journey started with frequency and urgency. I started off with estriol cream, improved things a bit, but needed three times per week. I took uristemol from boots which helped too.
Then I had a post meno bleed, so had a hysteroscopy, and gynae suggested Mirena coil to protect uterus Linda no frm any potential effects from any I estring gen I needed to use, she also recommended estring as it is inserted into vagina and releases oestrogen for 90 days continually.
It can be removed and replaced yourself.
It has helped but I still had days when frequency would be major, so now I take vesicare to help, and it has made a difference.
All these things are horrible, no one had ever told me about VA thank goodness for this forum, I've learnt so much, and I've learnt I'm not alone too!
Hope this helps xx