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[cubagirl]

Lanie, maybe check out your local GP surgery. My one has counsellors who help with anxiety. No payment, part of their service for patients. One actually used Mindfulness approach. Maybe our surgery is lucky, but worth enquiring about. Can't be easy for you, we'd move heaven & earth to help our kids. Hope she improves & I'm sure with all your love & support, she'll do just that.

[Woodlands]

Hi honey.
So glad your exploring the things i know will help you.
Children i've worked with in school before i have introduced a red card via the head of year...youngster shows it to teacher and exits the class no questions asked......my DD has self harm and now substance misuse.......xx

[CLKD]

Lots of sunshine = VitD as well as eating regularly ....... to stop that awful dip when the body is hungry which can cause anxiety surges.  The trick for me is to eat B4 my body is hungry 

[jedigirl]

Hi,
I could have written your post. My daughter was very similar last year and is a very empathetic child. In fact a counsellor she saw last week said she had gifts which she could use when she realises her potential. I wont give you the whole story of what my daughter has been through here as its very personal and probably irrelevant. If you want to private message me at any time feel free.
Please check out a website called Excel At Life. It has many audio self helps for your daughter and some fab meditations. Have you approached Camhs? They offer some great CBT therapy.
jedigirl

[Lanie66]

Thank you jedigirl.   It's been a bad day today, had her first panic attack at school.  It appears it was well managed by the school first aider and head of year.   She was able to use her time out card.  Her head of year has been fantastic and has referred her to camhs.  The mytime section has been in touch but unlikely to be able to offer counselling b4 may.  I'm organising some private counselling thru Relate thanks to advice received on here.  I feel so helpless, been having a sh*t time at work myself recently too so feeling the strain.  She has an appointment with the school nurse tomorrow, hoping for miracles tbh or at least some coping mechanisms delivered by someone other than mum and dad that she might listen to.  I might pm you  x

[nearly50]

Good luck Lanie,  sounds like the school dealt with it well. Feel for you, you're doing all you can

[Meadowblue]

Wondering Lanie if this would help.  My daughter now in first year of A levels suffered terribly leading up to her GCSE's and is, indeed, a naturally anxious young lady.  Her symptoms manifesting themself in being unable to sleep through worry, she then finds writing herself notes of everything she has to do which is going round and round in her head helps.  She also writes every night in a diary and gets her thoughts out of her head.  However, leading up to changing schools and revising for GCSE's I was at my wits end with her as she was so anxious she would be either physically sick or retching before school most days.  It was awful to see.  Not sure if you have considered herbal remedies but I was recommended to buy her a tincture from the A Vogel range called Passiflora.  You basically add 20 drops to a small amount of warm water every morning.  It has been nothing short of miraculous for her and she stopped the sickness and retching within a couple of days of taking it.  I kept her on it throughout the exams and now she takes it just for a few days leading up to stressful events.  It may be a placebo but quite honestly I don't care it works.  She passed her GCSE's with 6 A*s and 5 A's so must have done something! 

Hope this helps.

[Lanie66]

Thank you Meadowblue !  I'm going to Google passiflora tonight.  I've used those type of tinctures before and am all for natural remedies.  I've started her on vit B complex and omega3 this week hoping there'll be a positive result. Wow your daughter did well in her exams, well done to her.  Mine also retches before going into school too and although she's had a panic attack this week she also had more calm times.  We're also starting some private counselling next week. 

Lots of great advice on this forum, I'm really grateful.

[Lanie66]

TY x

[letty]

Hi,

I'm really sorry you and your daughter are going through this. My daughter is 15 and just starting to feel anxiety over exams, she's home educated so until now life has always been very relaxed and stress free for her.

After moving and making friends with home educators that are on the exam/college route she decided she wanted the same but it's been quite stressful and we're thinking of dropping a few subjects and taking things slower again.

Would it be possible if your daughter came out of school now and had private tuition these last couple of months? I imagine that a lot of what she is doing is revising now and going over past papers. I started teaching my daughter a gcse myself and realised how easy it was, that there's specialist support online and tons of past papers to download. 

If your school were supportive maybe she could come in to get things marked and they'd still pay for her to sit the exams. If you're working this might not be possible, unless they can give you or your partner a sabbatical for a few months/change your hours etc, or unless you are happy with your daughter being home alone.

All best wishes x x

[Lanie66]

Update!  Started Relate counselling, the teenage based one isnt available in our area but the counsellor has experience with teenagers in a former job which is great.  One session and already the realisation of what she's been suffering is apparent. Years! Things we didn't realise.   The nights where my daughter has been physically sick during the night, we thought it was a sensitive stomach and she was under a paediatrician at age 12 for what was diagnosed as abdominal migraine.  It appears it was anxiety for what was happening the next day, a holiday, a day trip, or just something mundane that bothered her.  We didnt add 2 and 2.  The same has happened yesterday before a shopping trip to a nearby city but she got through it.  She went after being sick and felt terrible but she did it.  This week has been a revelation and has taught me that things are not always what they seem.  Hope this helps someone else x

[Salad]

Glad she has help so quickly 

She sounds so like my daughter - her anxiety kicked off aged 10. She was able to voice these worries including crossing roads, getting off to sleep, losing sight of me in shops, walking past dogs, us dying. She added to this list as she got older. She is now 25 and has become an incredible young lady. Funny, empathetic and well grounded. I do feel her anxieties have helped build inner strengths in her.

There is light at the end of the tunnel and your daughter will slowly get there. It sounds like you are doing just what a mum should do - keep talking X

[CLKD]

I didn't tell my parents because I was told that I would 'grow out of it' or 'you'll be OK once you get there' which was often true but no one helped me through the pre-event anxiety  ........ also, there was a lot of embarrassment surrounding my experiences ........ did the Counsellor suggest journalling?

[Lanie66]

If you mean simply keeping a record of what leads up to a possible anxiety attack, then yes she did.  We're early days but so pleased the help has begun.

[CLKD]

Journalling to get any anger out is important too.  Which should be totally personal and not read by anyone else, vent, vent, vent  - then shred after a week.  Helps clear the brain.

So pleased that counselling has been arranged.