"overwhelm her that are also of her own-doing in my opinion" -
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Let me tell it from a sufferer who had her first panic attack at the age of 3
. No one ever asked why. I was diagnosed with anorexia at age 5, B4 it was 'fashionable'. GP told Mum that I would 'grow out of it' but no one thought to tell me how - I grew to age of 32 and realised that I was now the adult and had a melt down. My anxiety takes the form of sudden nausea, weak thighs, weak calves and then I'm curled up in a ball. I had all the pre-school nerves and yes, I was OK once I was there, I also sung in the school choir as well as the local theatre group - because once on stage the anxiety had been re-directed. But the days/nights leading to an event even now almost destroys me if anxiety sets in.
For me when I fell well I can't remember how it feels to be ill, I know that anxiety makes me feel ill but for me it's physical - so I have often taken on stuff but by the time stuff arrives, I can't do it
. I have learned by painful means NEVER to say 'yes' to doing something because my worst time if the morning; by mid-afternoon I begin to relax and by evening I'm a different person. Maybe ask when they feel worse, it's always been mornings for me.
Anxiety can be caused when the body is hungry so maybe having walked and arrived at the Pub. her body suddenly had a dip which she interprets as anxiety. Good to leave the situation rather than sitting there, suffering. My go-to place is always a loo or run to the car. Himself will finish the shopping and find me later.
If you are looking as far as May/June your daughter will be too! so ask. Don't let her think that no one else realises that exam time might be worse, or she may feel better once the days arrive. I still don't plan any further than half a day at a time.
MIND have walk-in centres. There are several teen groups where they get together to chat about mental health issues, do find out what is available in your area. Relaxation therapy can help but it has to be practised. Walking is good. Always take small munchies and eat B4 she is hungry! to avoid that dip with nausea = anxiety.
Never assume that you know how these girls might be feeling. Sometimes I would be in situations and look over my left shoulder for anxiety to strike and it didn't - the more important an event, the more likely I am to panic