Your husband may be scared that the capable woman he thought he knew has disappeared. My Dad could support anyone except my Mum. When she had something that kept her in bed he would bury his head; not offer a hot water bottle or warm drink for example. With us kids or the neighbours he would move mountains to give help and sympathy.
They would have huge rows about it each time she recovered. Understandably Mum would be upset but probably Dad couldn't express what he felt. maybe it was panic attacks?!?
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What support services could you access outside of the home? Is there a Stoma Nurse that you could take with, is the heightened liver function tests in anyway related? The liver is a good organ in that it can regenerate but sometimes it gets out of kilter
. About the brain lesion: what were you told about it, maybe it's not going to cause any problems and wouldn't have been found without a scan? Again, if necessary ring the Dept and speak to someone 'in the know'? Or ask your GP if that particular part of your history needs any follow-up?
Don't tell your husband that you are 'pacing' yourself, get on with what you are able to do each day and ignore the rest. Does he notice what isn't done each day? Don't give him a reason to fire back his dislike of your current situation. He's said his 'piece' about expecting you to 'deal better' with how your health is, next time tell him to shut is gob!??? that you have 'heard it all B4 and your attitude hasn't the capability of altering where we are right now!' Then walk away. Don't shout. Quietly impress on him that how he feels is his problem and he shouldn't be making it yours.
Does your daughter not have a partner, she doesn't really
depend on you, surely? That's how you see the situation but she needs to learn to deal!!! Is he good with the baby, if so, sit back and let him be ………..